Some of the Social Manly behavior:
- ARE RIDICULOUS!
1. Men don’t have any emotions. They should suppress their emotions and problems.
- Nope. My friends are honest and straightforward and they have emotions too, only thing is they react differently. Eg. a friend and his wife lost their baby - wife was crushed and took a while to get on with life. He, on the other hand appeared to get on with life almost immediately, back to work etc. But I could see that he was actually badly affected by the loss, only that he focused on his job responsibilities and thus, it didn't show very much. So to those who cannot read him accurately, they will misconstrue his reaction to the tragedy.
2. They are rough and tough and should NOT complain about women.
- Ho boy... so they think. But what's the point about being the "strong, silent type" while complaining about women to their friends etc and whining left right and centre, except to what is the root of their perceived problems? If they communicated clearly, things can be worked out.
They have to complain, one way or another, to get it off their chest. Everybody does. If we keep negative stuff inside, it will just fester to blow up another day, most probably with seriously damaging consequences. Might as well nip it in the bud when it happens, air the problem and find a solution.
3. Men are expected to be physically tall, strong, and brave.
- Physically tall - not necessarily. Define the rest of the above. Strong in physical strength? not necessary. In character - to me, yes. Brave - physically? not necessarily. In character - to me, yes. Most of the time, brains win over brawn. It's better to be smart than just strong.
4. They are supposed to protect and provide women.
- Yes, but also subjective. Not necessarily physically or materially.
5. They are supposed to make sacrifices, even sacrificing their lives, to protect and provide women.
- How nice. But also subjective. Sacrificing life - not necessarily dying physically to protect. Could be sacrificing things they like, etc. Works both ways for men and women. Everything works both ways.
6. They are not supposed to have weaknesses or vulnerabilities. They must not show feelings as these would make them appear weak or vulnerable.
- Nope. It makes them human. ... Err but having said that, please don't bawl like a baby at the sight of a needle or blood. Show weakness ok and willingness to improve. NB: Show weakness in private - but this doesn't mean "me, myself and I" like some granite heads. Show weakness in private with friends or trusted family who can help be mirrors to show how to improve.
7. They should always be willing to fight their way and defend their woman/family. They should not withdraw from a fight.
- Yes, but also subjective. Be smart about it and not necessarily fight immediately. Sometimes, need to fight immediately, depending on the situation but most times, no. Planning and executing strategy better. Ensures as far as possible that defense is strong. Withdraw to prepare if necessary, for a while. It doesn't matter if you look like a loser in the short term if you win at the end of the day.
8. They should not have any feelings.
- Disagree. They will have feelings whether anybody likes it or not. Just a matter of how crazy they turn out to be - like tragedy of the Aussie dropping the 4yo daughter over the bridge and other examples of nutcases - emotional men who cant handle life and cop out - mentally or physically - and cause others to suffer.
How many of you expect your man to behave like this?
- Nope. As above.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
No time to read the replies yet but OP :-
Some of the Social Manly behavior:
- ARE RIDICULOUS!
1. Men don’t have any emotions. They should suppress their emotions and problems.
- Nope. My friends are honest and straightforward and they have emotions too, only thing is they react differently. Eg. a friend and his wife lost their baby - wife was crushed and took a while to get on with life. He, on the other hand appeared to get on with life almost immediately, back to work etc. But I could see that he was actually badly affected by the loss, only that he focused on his job responsibilities and thus, it didn't show very much. So to those who cannot read him accurately, they will misconstrue his reaction to the tragedy.
2. They are rough and tough and should NOT complain about women.
- Ho boy... so they think. But what's the point about being the "strong, silent type" while complaining about women to their friends etc and whining left right and centre, except to what is the root of their perceived problems? If they communicated clearly, things can be worked out.
They have to complain, one way or another, to get it off their chest. Everybody does. If we keep negative stuff inside, it will just fester to blow up another day, most probably with seriously damaging consequences. Might as well nip it in the bud when it happens, air the problem and find a solution.
3. Men are expected to be physically tall, strong, and brave.
- Physically tall - not necessarily. Define the rest of the above. Strong in physical strength? not necessary. In character - to me, yes. Brave - physically? not necessarily. In character - to me, yes. Most of the time, brains win over brawn. It's better to be smart than just strong.
4. They are supposed to protect and provide women.
- Yes, but also subjective. Not necessarily physically or materially.
5. They are supposed to make sacrifices, even sacrificing their lives, to protect and provide women.
- How nice. But also subjective. Sacrificing life - not necessarily dying physically to protect. Could be sacrificing things they like, etc. Works both ways for men and women. Everything works both ways.
6. They are not supposed to have weaknesses or vulnerabilities. They must not show feelings as these would make them appear weak or vulnerable.
- Nope. It makes them human. ... Err but having said that, please don't bawl like a baby at the sight of a needle or blood. Show weakness ok and willingness to improve. NB: Show weakness in private - but this doesn't mean "me, myself and I" like some granite heads. Show weakness in private with friends or trusted family who can help be mirrors to show how to improve.
7. They should always be willing to fight their way and defend their woman/family. They should not withdraw from a fight.
- Yes, but also subjective. Be smart about it and not necessarily fight immediately. Sometimes, need to fight immediately, depending on the situation but most times, no. Planning and executing strategy better. Ensures as far as possible that defense is strong. Withdraw to prepare if necessary, for a while. It doesn't matter if you look like a loser in the short term if you win at the end of the day.
8. They should not have any feelings.
- Disagree. They will have feelings whether anybody likes it or not. Just a matter of how crazy they turn out to be - like tragedy of the Aussie dropping the 4yo daughter over the bridge and other examples of nutcases - emotional men who cant handle life and cop out - mentally or physically - and cause others to suffer.
How many of you expect your man to behave like this?
- Nope. As above.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama