now positive reinforcement is good... but not like... here is a little candy anytime they do something right...
we do positive reinforcement with out noticing with children with just body language
as in smiles head nods and even hugs and such...
if a child is treated more maturely then they will also act accordingly...
now this next question goes out to anyone who has ever met my daughter...
does she have manners? and does she or does she not act very politely?
your answer will show you that treating a kid like a grown up is more or less of a better way to treat children than treating them like dogs...
i know for a fact that my daughter is well behaved... and it has nothing to do with any kind of study on how to treat children... all i do is think back to when i was young... and how did i respond to things... and what was i thinking when i did something wrong or right... and i judge her actions accordingly... its really easy to tell what your child is thinking if you think back to how you thought as a child...
if my daughter paints on the walls of the house with her paint brush... i dont spank her... i show her were the stuff is to clean it up... and have her clean it up... (majority of the time she makes just as big of a mess hahahahahahaha so i then have to clean up after her) but she learns that if you do something wrong you have to fix it...
treating your kid like a dog... tells them if you do something wrong you will get punished... so they never learn to fix the mistake...
or if they do someting right they thank they should be treated with an award... which in many cases can cause a child do only do right for the sake of the reward and not for the sake of just being good...
sorry i could go on all day about this... its one of my favorite topics =) i love children... but i am worried that to many people see there child as a burdon and look for out side help to solve there problems with this so called burdon...
but i do also understand that every child has to be treated differently because even my sisters kids are nothing like my kids... and they are the closest child relatives out there... so with that said... just show your child the respect you wish you had when you were growing up... and im sure they will be fine...
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just hanging out and watching dvd's with helen keller... kind of a quite night.
now positive reinforcement is good... but not like... here is a little candy anytime they do something right...
we do positive reinforcement with out noticing with children with just body language
as in smiles head nods and even hugs and such...
if a child is treated more maturely then they will also act accordingly...
now this next question goes out to anyone who has ever met my daughter...
does she have manners? and does she or does she not act very politely?
your answer will show you that treating a kid like a grown up is more or less of a better way to treat children than treating them like dogs...
i know for a fact that my daughter is well behaved... and it has nothing to do with any kind of study on how to treat children... all i do is think back to when i was young... and how did i respond to things... and what was i thinking when i did something wrong or right... and i judge her actions accordingly... its really easy to tell what your child is thinking if you think back to how you thought as a child...
if my daughter paints on the walls of the house with her paint brush... i dont spank her... i show her were the stuff is to clean it up... and have her clean it up... (majority of the time she makes just as big of a mess hahahahahahaha so i then have to clean up after her) but she learns that if you do something wrong you have to fix it...
treating your kid like a dog... tells them if you do something wrong you will get punished... so they never learn to fix the mistake...
or if they do someting right they thank they should be treated with an award... which in many cases can cause a child do only do right for the sake of the reward and not for the sake of just being good...
sorry i could go on all day about this... its one of my favorite topics =) i love children... but i am worried that to many people see there child as a burdon and look for out side help to solve there problems with this so called burdon...
but i do also understand that every child has to be treated differently because even my sisters kids are nothing like my kids... and they are the closest child relatives out there... so with that said... just show your child the respect you wish you had when you were growing up... and im sure they will be fine...
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my qatar photography page
just hanging out and watching dvd's with helen keller... kind of a quite night.