Have been following this post from the beginning, really feel for you. i can understand what you are going thru' as i have been thru' it. And i am still with my hubby. the best advice i can give you is set him free, if he's yours he will come back to you or else be ready to face the truth. dont push him too much. Just let him be. You enjoy your own life with your friends, relatives, etc. Keep yourself busy, occupied so that you dont have time to think about anything else. for me, I have become a workaholic now. Though my situation is different, (i mean the cultural differences between u and your hubby). Anyways take care. this is just a passing phase.