Gadgets keep an eye on cheating hubbies
JEDDAH: Incidents of wives spying on their husbands have surfaced as a growing trend in Saudi society. Police archives are replete with such cases.
Most of these women claim that they have the right to do this in order to preserve their rights backed up with solid evidence.
Um Ammar, a Saudi wife, said she was impressed by modern technology, especially social networking site Facebook. She said she insisted her husband add her as one of his friends so she could find out what was going on in his life.
She recalled that a woman friend of hers had discovered that her husband was willing to cheat on her after she joined his Facebook page using a pseudonym. She started communicating with her husband using this fake name. The friend said after months of intimate talk the husband was surprised to find that the woman he was dying to meet was his own wife.
Another Saudi woman, who opted not to be identified, said her husband was constantly traveling due to the nature of his work.
She said she and her children never doubted him as they were used to his repeated absences. She said after one of his journeys, her husband began to change.
"I became suspicious that there was another woman in his life. There was nothing I could do but look at his phone call records and search through his personal belongings. He was very keen not to be discovered but I found out about his relationship with another woman from pictures I found in his laptop. Asking for a divorce was my natural reaction to his infidelity," she said.
Um Ahlam said she was jealous by nature. After marriage, she found out that her husband was in love with his cousin and about to marry her had it not been for a last-minute dispute between their parents.
"Whenever I remember this, I feel the fire of jealousy in my chest. I kept thinking that ultimately he would marry her, especially after his old love refused to marry afterward," she said.
Um Ahlam said she had no other option but to use modern technology to spy on her husband, including intercepting his cell phone and e-mail messages.
"Men cannot be trusted. The availability of modern technology will help catch cheating husbands. If I discovered that he was cheating on me, I would not hesitate to divorce him," she said.
On the other hand, Ayah, another Saudi wife, said women who spy on their husbands have no confidence in themselves or those around them. "I am against women spying on their husbands. My true love for him and my caring nature is my protection against him cheating on me. A husband will never look for another woman if he feels safe and stable with his wife," she said.
Commenting on the issue, legal consultant Mashari Saud said wives spying on their husbands has become a phenomenon. He added that such cases were filling the police archives these days. "This act is against the law even if the motive of the woman is to have evidence to produce before the Shariah court, which handles family cases," he said.
Saud warned that husbands have the right to object to these actions and demand punishment against their wives. He said instead of resorting to spying to prove their cases, women can always go for alternative means such as calling witnesses or asking the husband to take an oath.
"If the husband takes his wife to the police on charges of spying, the police will refer the matter to the Prosecution and Investigations Commission (PIC). The commission will in turn deliver the case to the summary court, which will try the woman," he said.
A director of a private company importing espionage equipment said they provide discreet stands with memory cards that can be installed in offices and visually record what is going on. He said the recordings could easily be accessed when the memory card is inserted in a computer.
The director, who did not want his name to be published, said other tools include small camera equipment that can be placed in shirt buttons or other inconspicuous places to make audiovisual recordings of all what the bugged person says or does.
He said there is a small camera with a memory card that can be planted in air fresheners. "There is a chip that uses satellite technology to pinpoint the whereabouts of someone but without photo or sound," he said. He, however, explained that this has not reached the Kingdom yet.
The director also said there are sunglasses that can record all movements by photo and sound. He said the sunglasses could work for 24 hours through a receptor which records immediately to a wireless system.
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My question is what will they do once they discover their spouse's betrayal? If you actually intend on doing something all power to them! I do agree it must be very sad if you need to go through all that trouble to know if your spouse is unfaithful or not.I have friends who have been/are in marriages like this and it just drives me crazy wondering how they can do it! Pathetic life really..
Brit - Yes,even a wife cheats.I know women who are doing that even if they seem ok with their marriage. Most of the reason why people cheat IMO is that they are looking for the spark feeling again,the feeling of excitement which is usually lost in most marriages..
Or a wife :o)
its all too common nowadays ..
Ohh,what life would it be if you have to spy like a ninja? How people act,even our bfs or husbands is not in our hands.I have a friend who once had an affair with someone, but he told me if he'll be born again,he'll choose the same wife to marry with which proves that he's happy with his wife..but he cheated on her once..that proves that being good to your husband and making him happy is not a guarantee that he'll never look for another dish outside.. Though i agree that in most cases, there's always something wrong in your married life if your husband cheats..
Sad life.
I'm sure some had a "feeling", others were insecure. But i also think that the company marketing the gadgets is playing on people's insecurities..
Lincoln pirate,its easy to say forgive and forget.this is not acceptable to all .so u will, if happens to you?
xena, that is a really simplistic viewpoint. What this article does not really go into in any depth is why some of these women felt that they had to pry. Could be that their husband's character had changed, this is usually a sign. Another is being secretive with their phone. Unexplained financial transactions. If all of these things were going on and the wife asked her husband point blank if he was seeing another woman and he said no, I would be highly suspicious and I think it is justified in seeking the truth when it was obvious her husband was lying.
Suggesting that a way round this is for men to take oaths is pretty useless. If someone cheats on their spouse, they already have a dishonest nature so what makes the authorities think they will tell the truth under oath?
lol xena..i felt like i'm sherlock homes if i spy on him..on the other side, how would i know if he cheats on me now since i'm living and working here whilst he is in our country right now...
its really not worth being in that relationship....
But then what would I know.... I am not even in one;-p
hahhaa..yeah right bratzky...
always trust our instinct ....usually if we smell something fishy u know what to do................ =)
blizzard adik..i agree with yeah..trust the woman's instinct
"A husband will never look for another woman if he feels safe and stable with his wife," A husband/ boy friend will never look for another woman if he feels safe and stable with his wife/girl friend, ------------- but now a days, its really hard to trust...........in my opinion no need to spy on them if they will do something bad nobody can stop them they will do it and try to hide it by covering it up like being nice, sweet blah blah blah................but be wise, Girls always trust ur instinct !!!!! hahaha........and if a guy really loves u sooner or later he will realized it or he will not cheat =P
in my opinion: if there is no trust there is no marriage. so even with the most advanced gadgets the mutual trust should be there.
At last they all ended up in divorce. Is it worth spying like that to go for a divorce with a bunch of kids?
I don't know. I think if my husband refused to add me on Facebook that would be enough of a sign that something was up.
An article full of double standards and whole lot of nonsense
haha..it's your choice who'll like to be friends with...just select and the rest ignore..;)
SS i hav received request frm many unknow users in FB tat i keep rejectin their friendsheep request and they keep on sending me...:) i dont want to ignore the request - i like to play tennis...they hit the frndsheep request and i hit the reject button....:)
rizks..maybe you're hidin something i suppose..lol..better add only the person you know personally not the random fb users who will just add you...
It's a bit of a self fullfilling prophecy isn't it? Women are so desperate to find out if their husbands are cheating that they drive them to cheat on them.
Facebook - i hate you ! :(
It also helps tracking cheating wives! But is it worth it? It's better to forgive and forget!
oooooooooooooooooh nooooooooooooo