potty mouthed kid
i cannot,for the life of me tolerate a kid who curses like crazy.
i have a dear VIP client that comes from a respectable background who brings her 5 year old boy to our shop whenever she visits.sometimes she comes with the kid alone other times she brings a nanny in tow.
what disturbs me is the child is the complete opposite of the mom.mom is reserved,doesnt lose her composure and very sweet,the child is really something else.
the mom usually hears her child swear at the nanny or even at me,when he gets bored,the mother just shrugs it off.
whats wrong with this picture?i once asked the nanny if the mother swears in front of his kid and she just smiles at me.
i really want to tell the mother how offensive her kid is but im afraid that i will lose a client that brings a lot of business to where i work.
help please????
1. Thank god that u r not the baby sitter for this kid.
2. Try to control ur self and ignore him for the limited time when u c him (i don't think that it will be more than one hour).
3. Learn a lesson from this practical experience so that ur kids will not grow in this way.
4. nothing comes easy, and in each business there will be pros and cons.
next time if he says something than dont worry about Mom part.Just keep giving dirty or squeezed eyebrows stares to the kid for the long time.keep doing it for some more times.She will get the sign...All the best...
I once told off a kid for being abusive to his driver and the father told me to mind my own business ;o(
If the child swears you, then you have every right to tell the women that you have been offended. You may lose her business but better that than your integrity.
tell the lil brat to shut the fluck up...
If it bothers you so much - this is what I say to rude or abusive children -
Smile sweetly at them and say very calmly- nobody likes what you are saying - I am sure you have got nicer words to use, what did you mean to say? Allow the child to think about and correct themselves if they can.
In the meantime -
Given your situation you should then look at the mother and say - what a bright lovely child you have but where did he learn that language from? I am sure you, your husband and even your maid does not use this type of language. Are they tired or upset? (This gives them a 'way out' and a means to an apology).
Even so - look at the child again and reiterate your views and say - I will listen to you and notice you when you use nicer words. After that -ignore the child, engage the mother and if needed support the maid.
Sometimes - the mother and the maid are at a loss to what to do next - it can sometimes take a stranger to show discipline.
If the mother is as sweet as you say - she may take it on the chin and run with it.
This formula has worked for me but then again I am a Teacher and sadly this counts for something over here :-/
this is the norm in this culture, parents who dont do any parenting. The mother was most likely conditioned through experience that she should only concern herself with material interests and the child has been conditioned that nobody really cares about it. For a social being like a human child, the absense of any distinction between positive and negative attention has resulted in the child begging for attention wherever and whenever possible. In this case, from the store clerk who acknowledges vulgar language.
Are you being paid to 'educate' her child??? Did she ask your advice?? Your intentions are good but its not worth you getting into trouble. Just try and use some subtle facial expressions. You are right but maybe this is not a problem you are in a situation to fix.