Adopting children from other cultures

What exactly hve her links got to do with the story...

Just tell us what you deel about the news item. Do you agree with what the mob did or side with the parents..

If you are not tamil how you got root in india. in srilanks there is two official languages one is sinhala and other one is tamil. tamils are migrated from india. isn't it? then how got root in india. what languages you speak.

If it were up to me – any child that is unloved, abandoned and in need of a loving home – should be allowed to be adopted by anybody.

f a parent loves their adopted child and is up to the many challenges of parenthood; they will cope with all obstacles the kid chucks at them.

Even when it is your natural child we all get thrown ‘curve balls’ and we wonder why we got this kid that is ‘different’ to us.

Protect the child first and then deal with the other stuff afterwards.

Just like we do with our natural kids.

Lutappi, do you really have to shout so loud and so much?

FYI I'm certainly not a Tamil!And I cant even speak the language.Funny you should assume that. And yes I have been to India since my family migrated to SL. And to me both India and SL are very similar regardless of how much bigger India is than SL. And where have I stated that anyone is superior to another?And as for your saying "SO DO NOT BRING THIS TYPE OF TOPIC IN A FORUM LIKE QL" then you certainly have no right to tell me what to post and what not to. You have tottally misunderstood what I said or maybe you don't want to understand what I'm saying and yeah by mentioning Amitabh Bachan, you proved my point!

And I know Muslims are clashing with each other, and I have posted against this many times in QL if you care to search! but this topic was about India and a problem a Hindu couple are facing there due to adopting a Muslim child so why should I speak about Muslims in Egypt,Baharain etc on this thread when that's not the topic? This topic is connected to Hindus and Muslims in India and whilst I am not the one who posted the OP I will comment on it as I feel.And no where did I say I thought couple deserved what they got. Rather I feel sorry for them. I happen to have Hindu relations myself and befriended quite a few over the years so I have no problems with Hindus.I have no issue with anyone..period!

As of now my discussion with you has ended since its clear you are not one to try and understand what I was saying. Take care and goodbye.

HI FATHIMA

THERE ARE MANY IN INDIA WHO ADOPTS CHILDREN AND BROUGHT UP AS THEIR OWN CHILD. I KNOW ONE FAMILY WHO ADOPTS ONE CHILD AND BROUGHT UP ALONG WITH THEIR OTHER CHILD. AND FINALLY WHEN THE PARENTS WERE FALLEN SICK THE ADOPTED SON TOOK CARE OF THEM. YOU ARE AGAIN TELLING ABOUT SHAROOK KHAN AND INDIAN MENTALITY. YOU ARE ONCE AGAIN MNENTIONING ABOUT THE CLASHES OF HINDUS AND MUSLIMS. WHAT ABOUT THE MUSLIMS WHO ARE CLASHING IN THEIR OWN COUNTRIES? EG. EGYPT, BAHARAIN, IRAN PALASTINE. WHO IS SHARUK KHAN HE IS ONLY AN ACTOR. YOU ARE TELLING SHAROOK KHAN TOO NOT SPARED. WHAT ABOUT AMITHAB BACHAN HE TOO GOT CRITISIZED BY HINDUS AND PELTED STONE TO HIS HOUSE AND BREAK HIS GATE ETC. HE TOO IS CELEBRITY. SO DO NOT BRING THIS TYPE OF TOPIC IN A FORUM LIKE QL WHERE QATARIS EVEN RESPECT ALL RELIGION. HERE NO QATARI SPONSOR IS LOOKING RELIGIONWISE. THEY RESPECT ALL PEOPLE AND ALL RELIGION. THEN WHY ONLY WE EXPATRIATES ARE PIN POINTING EACH OTHER NATIONALITY. SHAROOK IS SITTING IN INDIA AND CRITICISING ABOUT HIS OWN NATION? IS THEIR ANY OTHER COUNTRY TOLERATE THIS? CAN YOU CRITICISE THE SAME HERE. NO WHY? CAN YOU GO BACK AND CRITISIZE ABOUT SRILANKA.? HERE YOU CAN WRITE ANYTHING. NO ONE WILL QUESTION YOU. DO YOU KNOW DURING THE HINUD MUSLIM CLASHES THERE WERE MANY HINUDS WHO HAVE GIVEN SHELTER TO MUSLIMS FAMILY AND PROTECT THEM TOO. EVEN I MYSELF KNEW DURING THE 1991 RIOTS IN BANDRA I WAS WORKING, IN OUR BUILDING MANY FAMILIES WHO GIVE PROTECTION BY PROVIDING FOOD SHELTER AND SPACE TO SLEEP. EVEN 1991 RIOTS MANY HINDUS TOO KILLED. WHETHER IT IS HINUDS OR MUSLIM OR CHRISTIAN OR BUDDHIST ALL ARE HUMANS AND THEIR BLOOD IS SAME. YOU ARE AGAIN COMPARING SL AND INDIA HOW CAN YOU BE? SRILANKA MEASURES ONLY ONE AVERAGE STATE OF INDIA. INDIA IS A VAST COUNTRY HENCE THE PROBLEMS TOO MAY BE MORE. HOW MANY TIMES YOU VISITED INDIA ONCE YOU SETTLED BACK TO SL. WHERE YOU VISITED ALL OVER INDIA? THERE ARE VARIOUS CULTURES AND VARIOUS LANGUAGES AND TRADITIONS IN INDIA.EVERY GOOD AND BAD THINGS THERE MAY BE OPPOSITION. EITHER BY SOCIETY OR BY THEIR OWN PEOPLE. MORE THAN 347 LANGUAGES SPEAK. CAN YOU IMAGINE WHAT IS ALL THAT LANGUAGES AND TRADITION. SO FORGET ABOUT INDIA WE WILL HANDLE. YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN NATION. I THINK YOU ARE TAMIL. AT LEAST YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL TO SRILANKA WHO GAVE SHELTER TO YOU UNDER THEIR ROOF.

Hmm, where were all those outraged people when this girl needed a family to take care of her?

What does it matter which practices are used, there is only one god after all.

And even if one does not believe, as long as people are decent and nice, what does it matter.

Does humanity not have precedence over faith?

I know a few couples who have adopted children from China, India and Haiti and they are doing a wonderful job raising the child. Most of them have joined groups that bring together other Western parents with Asian/Africa/South American children and they meet regularly to teach the children their birth language and about their birth culture.

The children don't seem to go through any issues different from those that most adopted children go through.

As for the case in article. The people opposing this family should be ashamed of themselves. This girl is with a loving family who only has her health and happiness in mind. I'm sure Allah would rather her live with Hindu's who love and feed her, than in an orphanage where she can be starved and abused.

Its not me who is opposing this couple, it is people from their own country,their own society and family who are,including his own brother. As for me then I am all for it...ie adopting a child in need religion and caste no bar. But I would think twice in countries like SL and India cos I know the kind of controversy and even risk such an adoption can cause me and my family.Surely you are aware of the clashes between Hindus and Muslims in India,right? If even celebrities like Sharukh khan have faced harassment due to these issues then what this couple is facing is quite expected. Yes you and I may agree that this couple should not be treated this way but sadly not everyone is of our mentality,right?Hence the sad situation.

And I do believe I am of those who respect all religions and castes, Alhamdullilah. That is what my religion has taught me too.

FATHIMA I AM NOT NEW TO QL. I AM IN DOHA MORE THAN 17 YEARS AND QL TOO IF YOU HAVE ROOTS IN INDIA THAT IS FINE BUT FOR ADOPTING A CHILD YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT INDIA'S RIVALRY WITH MUSLIM AND HINDUS. SEE FAHTIMA A CHILD IS BORN WITHOUT ANY RELIGION. THAT PARENTS OR SOCIEITY IS IMPOSING A RELIGION TO HIM. SO NO QUESTION ARISING WHO ADOPTS A CHILD ONLY THING THE CHILD SHOULD GET PROPER FOOD, HEALTH, CLOTHES EDUCATION CARE ETC.ETC IRRESPECTIVE OF WHO IS HIS OR HER PARENTS. THERE ARE MANY CHILDREN ABANDONED BY THEIR PARENTS NOT ONLY IN INDIA IN OTHER COUNTRIES TOO. BUT IF A CHILD IS ORPHANED AND SOMEONE WANT TO ADOPT A CHILD THEN THERE IS HUE AND CRY WHY EVEN MYSELF WANT TO ADOPT A CHILD THERE ARE LENGTY PROCEDURES. SO RESPECT HUMANITY NOT RELIGION.

I guess you are new to QL so you are unaware that I happen to be of Indian blood too. My mom is Indian and so is my dad's mom. I have family in India. In SL we are refereed too as "Indian Muslims"! Now where have I "meddled" with "others"???

As for my comment then I certainly know what I am talking about having been to India myself. And yes SL has their side of ethnic clashes too and had a Muslim/Tamil couple attempted to bring up a Buddhist child in this manner then their would certainly be controversies and trials in the manner the couple mentioned in the OP are facing. Such is the sad state of the world we live in.and I'm sure anyone who takes such steps are aware of this and kudos to them for still being brave enough to do so!

Oh and Hi to you too...have a nice day!

hi fathima, in every countries there is clashes and rivalries. It is not only among hindus and muslims. It is among same religions people are fighting. Iran, Iraq, Pakistan, upper caste, lower caste, sunnis, shiyas etc.etc. Not even a single place is peaceful every where fighting bombing etc,. is going on. yemen, egypt, libiya,baharin, palestine, isreal etc.. And you can see your own country how many people are migrating from srilanka to other coutries. It is a small place and still you can't solve your own countries problem, how you are medelling with others matter.We will solve our problem. India is a vast country and there are many people who are capable to handle India's problem. No need for you to commend here about india's rivalry.You have to learn the history of all nation not only about india, take eg. of pakistan,Indonesia, bangladesh, china, etc.etc.

yes what you told is correct

Way to risky specially in countries where there's a history of warfare between religious groups.Hindu-Muslim clashes are well known in India. And there are many nefarious people who actually flame such clashes for their own goals. Hence supposing the couple had the best of intentions when adopting the child what they did was still a very jeopardous act and they are now facing the consequences.

And so it begins :o)

Every child has a right to food, shelter, education and love. Child should be given to a Muslim family for adoption (in the best interest of the child)because the ultimate intention of adoption should be welfare of the child.

As far as this particular case is concerned, there is some finacial angle to it regarding inheritance. It should be investigated.

No its not a good idea.

A new born baby has no religion and so when adopted gets a family , religion all different from what it was born in to. Whereas a child already indoctrinate in a specific religion needs to follow it so if the parents can put up with raising a completely different child then they can go in for older adoptions otherwise it might be better for a newborn adoption. Also in such a case the ethnic back ground of the child will also not matter, provided the parents can help the child assimilate in to a society in which the child is different genetically but not socially.

It's horrible and disgusting to harrass a family who's taking care of a child ,they are feeding her from their pots....what if the girl had landed up in the wrong hands or with flesh traders or human trafickers then would they ask them to make her follow her birth religion or throw stones at their houses.hahha..these just depict the acts of people who are cowrads but actually feel and try to behave brave.

It all depends on the age of the child. It would always be preferable to bring the child up in the culture of the parents. As far as educating the child in the culture of the birth country - I personaly would be against it.

Fact no. 1 we all follow our religion/culture because we think its the best for human kind

(At least I have never herad of someone who feels that the other religion is the best, but still continues to follow something which he/she doesn't believe in)

Fact no. 2 Parents always guide their children to follow ideologies which are the best.

...............Do you get the dilemma if you encourage your child to believe in something which according to you is not the best? You would never do it to your own child, why do it to adopted one.........unless adoption is a publik drama.