"Engaged" to a Married Man?

expect all kinds of comments from everyone here. I made my deductions about the whole idea that the couple are fellow compatriots and though you may deny it, people could tell.

Let's dissect your topic.

1. You know a girl (she's not your friend anymore?---assuming you were before)who have a relationship with a married guy.

--->SO? What's you're beef about it? It would be N.O.Y.B.---right?

2. You said (and we quote you)"How could a girl have the nerve to announce to the world that she is 'Engaged' to a married man? Don't you think that's called stupidity?

---> Since she's not a FRIEND, you find it the whole IDEA as "STUPID". YUP...i couldn't agree with you more on that.

3. You said "Btw these couple are self-confessed catholics'"

--> well, that ONE-LINER do gave you away: YOU despise the said couple for everything they are, the relationship, plans of getting married and all that crap about them.

You said she "bragged" ABOUT IT to friends and posting a photo of her finger with the 'engagement' ring on her social networking page.

My question is: why are you so concerned and perplexed? Does it really affects you that much? I'm just wondering...

AN uneducated lady at that

“You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.”

This is called LOVE IS BLIND...?

cant come to conclusions without knowing how is the married life of the man and if him and his wife have agreed that they would go for separation..

if the man is in a relationship for long outside his marriage, his wife should be knowing about this too..

anyways, its better not to jump the gun..

i do believe in KARMA. so lets wait that in their lifes. hope it will happen to both of them not in their respective family members. FLIRT lady should be in jail. also that guy. if no ne will sue them or inform to the police that their doing fisshy things many people will do the same things also. RESPECT THE FAMILY.

ah the comment that I made touched a wrong nerve???

What are you the judge and firing squad now also. dont throw stones in glass houses, and i was right about the nationality so no attitude there DS.. only the truth

to the person who posted this article in the first place ....

If it doesn't concern your life just shut up and carry on with your own life ... don't be a busy body.

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Sometimes the best thing to do is ... absolutely nothing!

oh the saint talks ...

i wonder if a girl of your dreams throw herself to you, how would be your reaction?

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Sometimes the best thing to do is ... absolutely nothing!

you were flagged because you use foul language, specifically a "word". For the second one, it's your attitude. Calm down, my "friend" it's not yet the end of the world!

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"

the couples are or the girl in question.

I think arabic-nightingale just wanted people to AGREE WITH HER that it is STUPID AND UBSURD IDEA the girl getting engaged to her (married)BF/fiance--whatever.

So please tell us all the truth,arabic_nightingale , what nationality is the girl we are talking about that had the affair with the married man and is now engaged to the same married man.. tell us the truth now please. you flagged both my comments to MOD as being Offensive, why i dont know,, so please tell us all what Nationality she is..

@Drovers dog: Did I ever mention the nationality of my subject here? For all you know, I may be referring to someone from a Western country. :(

"I am not a native English speaker. So don't mock me for my grammar mistakes."

- anonymous

@Vegas: I think a waste of time is when you find something you consider trash and yet you spend time on it.So why bother posting your idea on this forum then? :)

"I am not a native English speaker. So don't mock me for my grammar mistakes."

- anonymous

what is "indecent to you"? And if you really don't know why you were flagged as offensive, just use your ......!

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"

well, if she likes to brag about it, you can't stop her.. it's her life that she's bragging about in "her" social networking page anyway.. she'll deal with the consequences..

in the future does not make it right. Wait 'til the annulment is done and so they will have their "own" time (until the man finds another much younger and beautiful and a more stupid girl in the future!

And for those who said this is not a worthy thread, think again, this is QL, this what makes this an exciting forum. Brainstorming and HEALTHY exchange of ideas might bring good results (at least to others who are responsive).

But don't abuse this forum as Drovers Dog did in his comment! Let's make it civil!

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"

Nice bunch of mixed comments. LOL

"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach

Now thats what we call destiny. Lots of these kind of happenings all over the place. What this girl ever wanted is either love, money or both. and in this tough world both are a necessity. Just forget first what religion have to say

moral: men are interested in only one thing and every men on this planet knows and women are interested in more than one thing and every women in this planet knows

Soniya... no, none of them you mentioned have talked about the issue of whether the man is having a happy married life or not... they just cursed the two persons in question.. now hope that you are not presuming that I am supporting the man and the girl for whatever they are upto... I just dont interfere into anyones personal life and dont assume things and wouldnt ever curse anyone. Anyways as Vegas has said, this thread is a waste of time...so I am out of here. Cheers.

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One life to live, live it to the fullest.

Trash.

You can't teach experience...

moral : let that married man and that girl go to hell

I AGREE TO YOU ASIF_KHAN...LET THEM GO TO HELL...

I personally wouldn't do it but well some people like to announce to the whole world when they are happy...

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Firstly, I would like to apologize for mentioning anything about 'faith' in this thread.

Secondly, I think some of those who posted comments here are a little confused.

The topic is meant to be just about her ANNOUNCING TO THE WORLD that SHE'S ENGAGED TO A MARRIED MAN. By announcing I mean, posting a photo of her finger with the 'engagement' ring on her social networking page.

I don't care about the fact that she's having a supposedly 'forbidden' relationship with the guy. I just couldn't see the logic in even BRAGGING about it.

"I am not a native English speaker. So don't mock me for my grammar mistakes."

- anonymous

happygolucky, have u got ur answer from sonika, janser and sallydeepu?? do i need to tell further that whether he was happily married or not?? man, y at the first place he went out to that stupid girl??

May be the said pple belong to a religion /sect which condone polygamy. So the Wife saw it comming,and may god give her the strength to smile on her hubbys wedding day and after aka The South African First Ladi'es'.

Other wise in a monogamous society,the 'new' girl is an airhead.

You can be HOT or COLD to me, spare me LUKEWARM!!!!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3:

3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one or (a captive) that your right hands possess. That will be more suitable to prevent you from doing injustice.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.’

Significances of the prayers.

Fajar – increases the complexion or noor,

Zohar – increases Income,

Asar – Improves health,

Maghrib – good future 4 u r children,

Esha – peaceful sleep.

moral : let that married man and that girl go to hell

Janser28 - the man doesn't think he's stupid. In fact, he thinks he's smart - and guys would secretly agree, cos he can have the best of both worlds - excitement, out of his usual routine and commitments to his wife and family and since he has a girl willing to have an affair with him - so it's win-win for him.

The girl may be stupid because she thinks that he will actually divorce his wife and marry her. She must have been expressing her dissatisfaction at not being made an honest woman after this "relationship with a married man for a long time now" and he's probably upped the ante to keep her. Doesn't really have to act on his words. Words are just words and meaningless without any actions.

But then again, never know. Maybe she's smart and is offering him a better option that the possible hell he's living with his current wife. If he does do that, she will have to keep looking over her shoulder anyway though - cos if he can do it once, he will most probably do it again - later when a newer, more exciting model comes along. It basically shows a fundamental weakness in his shallow and selfish character as he does not honour his commitments.

If he's rich - good on her. If he's only pretending to be rich, then that will be another definition of slavery. Some people are extremely good at acting. She won't find out till it's too late. That will be another major drama...

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both of them is stupid how this man flirt with another lady enjoying himself and without thinking wat will be the feelings of his wife and the children....wat will be in the mind of his children...why he is doing that stupid relationship...if he they hv misunderstanding with the wife why dont they settle and talk about wat is the problem and to think about the kids future....dont create another problem.... the happiest in life is to have a complete and happy family...

both of them is stupid how this man flirt with another lady enjoying himself and without thinking wat will be the feelings of his wife and the children....wat will be in the mind of his children...why he is doing that stupid relationship...if he they hv misunderstanding with the wife why dont they settle and talk about wat is the problem and to think about the kids future....dont create another problem.... the happiest in life is to have a complete and happy family...

both of them is stupid how this man flirt with another lady enjoying himself and without thinking wat will be the feelings of his wife and the children....wat will be in the mind of his children...why he is doing that stupid relationship...if he they hv misunderstanding with the wife why dont they settle and talk about wat is the problem and to think about the kids future....dont create another problem.... the happiest in life is to have a complete and happy family...

then should be posted in classified ads for sure no one will comment. lol

"BRING IT ON CHAKA DOLL!!!"

judge a stranger's personal life. My opinion is that all those comments here are uselss and non sense as far as you are not a close friend or relative who knows the couple and thier true story.

My advice is that don't waste your time commenting on stranger's personal lifes, because non of them will bother to listen or consider your advice or comment as far as you are just nothing for both of them

Belated Happy Valentines

How easy is it to accept adultery isnt it?

happiness do matters.......

Ensure and understand that we are responsible and matured enough to make right decisions and act accordingly.....Our actions unintentionally shall not hurt anybody :)

Remember "WHAT GOES ROUND, COMES ROUND".

IF SHE THINKS SHE WILL BE HAPPY BREAKING ANOTHER WOMAN'S HEART, SAME WILL HAPPEN TO HER. HOW CAN SHE TRUST THIS GUY????

HE MIGHT DECIDE TO SOMEONE ELSE WHILE HE IS MARRIED TO HER.

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.....................HUMANS.

she dont think wat she is doing ...how many life she will destroy???life of the wife...and life of the children...stupid lady she is and proud of wat she did...i believe in karma...

Its sad how one woman can be happy stealing the happiness of another woman's marriage. There are so many single men out there, did she really have to pursue this man only?? How can anyone be happy after participating in another's persons pain and that too a woman hurting another woman. How in human!!! If he was already divorced its a different issue, he is considered single now. But he is still married!!!

As for being self confessed Catholics, what has that got to do with anything? They can say they are God for all they care. The bible says, many are called but few are chose. Did you know that?

Soniya...how do you know the man in question is having a happy married life.

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One life to live, live it to the fullest.

We have laws enforced for a reason. Even religion is man made. Man chooses to follow god and gives his practice a name. Many of you can agree to disagree to that. Marriage is just something used to symbolize unity between man and woman. To announce to the world that they are together to start a family...so in the eyes of religion and society.

If a man or woman is NOT happy with the way things are in that marriage i believe they should be freed from such a bondage.

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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then u should be telling this to the person who posted this topic.

for the Love to grow and last for a lifetime it should be

between two right people loving each other at the right place and time...

Absurd intent of this thread, why? see how at the end of it their faith is mentioned! I disagree n disapprove it, IMHO.

There are two laws of world governing, One the inheritent one, call the human instinct wherein male & female behave utterly natural, they may like/dislike whatever. Second, laws of land, manmade, in forms of rules/regulations/faiths/social norms n so on......

By virtue of first law male n female attracts each other and by second laws, they keep themselves away if things are not matching..

...this struggle will continue....

(bytheway if a female and male likes each other, let them be happily togather)

nothing new...millions of people are doin' such thing nowadays... it's either they're homewreckers or just truly madly deeply in love with the wrong guy/girl...

Anyway,Anyhow...It's none of my concern unless I'm the one who's concern....just my opinion :D

"BRING IT ON CHAKA DOLL!!!"

Well that girl's life will be a HELL soon coz she is responsible for tickling her nose on someone's happy married life..God never keep this kindda couple happy in their life..I m sorry to say coz most of the QLers won't get agreed with me..But i really pray misfortunes for her rest of the life coz therez no place for INFEDILITY in my life whether its done by a MAN or a WOMAN...

LOL its funny how some people's small minds work. A whore is someone that will give you sexual pleasure for a price. Don't be too quick to judge others, its not your place.

Believe in everyone being free to live their life the way they seem fit. We like to waste our time judging and condemning those that live a life different from ours. What business is it of anyone? You will not be paying for others sins. Relax :)

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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asif_khan...how does that popular saying in India relate to a women being called a whore.

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One life to live, live it to the fullest.

shes not insane but a whore.

there is a popular saying in india "a women is a biggest enemy of another women"

Girls relationship with married man is a prostitution only

the OP is a kabayan...I just assume THE GIRL(friend) is also one but I'm not sure about the guy...

But there's no "divorce" in our country and there is "annulment"...

The OP could clarify this...

Azilana is the only QL'er who has had the courage to mention compatriot/kabayan & therefore clear some things up,thank you for that,ANY OTHER non-kabayan mentioning that fact first would've had a good % of the fellow kabayans on QL shitting oh his/her head...@ arabic nightingale,your last sentence should've been "self confessed Catholic Kabayans/Filipinos" because leaving it @ just Catholics is quite misleading...

fellow compatriots(kabayans)?

I won't assume anything and I agree with drmana,I don't know the status of the guy's relationship with his wife. Maybe they are already separated and/or having separate lives already? who knows? maybe the OP could enlighten us on that part...hehehehe

For the girl(who happens to be the OP's friend)who announced (to her friends)that she's getting married to the guy(who is still MARRIED), she sure is brave enough to be "in the sideline" for this guy...LUCKY HIM.

well, it's her life and her insanity anyway.. :P

Well I feel that people make mistakes or sometimes marriages just dont work out, that doesnt mean you need to remain married to someone and be miserable for the rest of your life. If these two think they are more suited together to bring happiness in each other's lives then they should go ahead with it, of course after the annulment. I dont see any harm in announcing it coz the girl is quiet confident about her man, plus i'm sure not EVERYONE knows she's having an affair with a married man coz then she'd be behind bars. So i'm guessing this is a matter of just a few people knowing. Dont make a big issue about it.

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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As JAck said, what is the guarantee for this girl that the guy will not dump her in the future...

Thats good...its just that after some time ....I mean some "real good time"....he might think of annulling this relationship when he finds another hot chick on the block.

@drmana >The reason I had to mention their religion is because there might be other religions out there which make this case 'valid'. Say, those who are allowed to have more than one spouse?

"I am not a native English speaker. So don't mock me for my grammar mistakes."

- anonymous

Pity, because even it is a long time affair,if the annulment will not push through,she will be a mistress forever.

but since it was not mentioned in the post, I would rather not presume. However you see it, it's still illegal until such time as the annulment is granted. That's why I said, she is entitled to her insanity and not love, We're talking love in the real sense, not love the "word" which we all good at saying indiscriminately! Lol!!!

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"

I cannot say whether the married man and the girl are right or wrong for their relationship as I have no idea of their personal life situations like relationship of that man with his wife etc....but she surely is STUPID to announce her engagement before her man divorces his wife.

And lastly this has nothing to do with ones religion...better not to mention it in this thread.. more better would be to delete your last line mentioning their religion.

This is what i figure out

Having a RELATIONSHIP with a married man seems ok, further not carrying of the other lady who is committed with this guy and when finally the guys or both try to legitimize the relationship, that is wrong!!!

How very wonderful approach.... Helloooo i did not quiet get it,

well if u can read between the lines dear...."they are in a relationship for a very long time, then the man proposes"

i think long time is not 1 day,or 1 week to have a LONG relationship....and if a man proposes to a girl, what do you think my dear is it love or simply lust?????

it maybe presumptuous for you but well we have our own mind to interpret things and again to read between the lines ;p

HAPPY VALENTINES..guess am not late dmigty ;p

that information that they are in love? Isn't that presumptuous? No where in the post that say they're in love! Or I misread the post?

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"

call it stupidity, absurdness, craziness, whatever you call it...if they are both in love...well, nothing can stop them i guess...

yessss,the gurl is insane though,telling the whole world she is engaged to a married man...eeeeiiiwwwwww...the nerve ;p

that I guess works fine in this situation

"You Can't Fix Stupid"

Regards!!

absurd! But she's entitle to her insanity though! Who knows, they END-up happy! Lol!

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"Why is my PM access blocked?"