My Ex-Girl friend is back again in my Life
Me & my Ex-girl friend are back together again now after 2-3 years. During this period i never had any kinda relationship with any of the females.
And one fine day my Ex i.e. my present GF reveals to me that she was in a relatoinship with some1 else, who is one of my friend & they had also had some physical relationships.
I just dont understand how to react upon it.I am so confused & feel weird.
I really need some advice on this, as i dont feel like talking to her now & i am just confused.
Listen to Ac/Dc "Jack"....
Forget the pain, Dont forget the lesson learned.
take her to a doctor for a check up may be she ll be pregnant or having some STD VIRUSES and who knows 3 years is a long time and u may never know what all she might have done in these 3 years.
I am glad your ex girlfriend is back in your life. Getting ex back is not easy but it depends how your ex girlfriend feels about you. Congrats on getting your ex girlfriend back. how to get your ex girlfriend back
Sex are the essentials, Sandee, the rest is the decoration to make it human.
Love makes you blind, or blind makes you love
I neither agree nor disagree, I just asked you wiser folks, Jack has already answered, what's your answer Boston..
Yes, so you agree?
Yes...
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
Are you asking seriously?
Is sex the only thing in a relationship?
Yeah, use her and dump her when she becomes useless.
Hey buddy, did she learn any new tricks in bed? Is she better in bed now than before? I would say that you should "play" with her for now, don't make any serious commitments like getting engaged or getting her pregnant coz she may be testing you again.
if ur gf can leave u once in life for having relation with ur friend then she can REPEAT the same thing with u r u a toy to play
i dont think leaving u before ur gf had valid reason :S
....please leave her... :)
...listen to the sound of silence....
veris I always mentally supported Ross in those arguments, after all they were on a BREAKKKK :))
this is like Ross and Rachel on 'Friends'... "WE WERE ON A BREAAAAAAAAAAK!!!!!"
Did you really break up the first time or she had to leave for some reason. For example, She got cancelled and thus she can come back after 2 years?
If what you mean is that she just left because she has no other chance since she got cancelled, and if you both were always in touch and promised each other to get back together again, then you have two options:
1- Do your best to cheat her with her best friends in her absense. Make sure, that everytime she is away, you will cheat her, and then one day tell her the truth.Tell her that you cheated her with her best friend X and Y and Z in her absense.
2- Just throw her as a trash after you make sure to cheat your friend who had a relationship with her.Either with his current gf, or sister, mother...etc
Close ur eyes and imagine her with ur friend w/o cloths, If u r comfirtable just go with her otherwise leave her coz it will make u sick everytime in ur life.
Guyz come on everybody having a thinking that we can not change. He is not comfirtable with the situation that s why he is asking us.
I am as real as God.
Have you ever asked why the friend did not stay with her,
he not like used porridge also. How did she like her eggs in the morning????
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
Finally, you were awaited, Jackfrost. Let's go dirty.
yeah...scram the virtual craps. live the real world
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Ewww!
That's just plain sick, her being with your boi, that is like the ultimate betrayal *thinks to herself couldn't she find someone else*
Seriously it's like everybody else said you're gonna keep on imagining things going on between them, it would get weird whenever all 3 of you are hanging out, I am assuming if you don't ditch either of them.
Super awkward MOVE ON!
Maybe virtually. But you know I don't dig that virtual crap at all.
i think you got our profiles interchanged boston...i'm one of the meanies.
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You're a nice girl and I am a mean guy. You can't pay the price wacky, forget it.
Wacky look at the clock, it's 6 AM there...
boston sing for me a lullabye... please?
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Interesting...
He also writes witty songs like: Somewhere between, her blue eyes and jeans ...
I overheard it, Sandee. Don't even know what it means. Funny word: witty. Titty, Citty. Conway Twitty. Do you know that Conway Twitty founded Twitty City and sells Twitty Burgers?
Boston someone called you witty????
It takes a lot of courage to admit past relationship including how intimate it was, but she did.Analyzed yourself if you can accept her past wholeheartedly, If your confused then better end the relationship coz her past will be like a shadow that keeps following you,and it will be a hell for both of you staying together. Be honest to tell her how you feel,besides she did not cheat on you since she had a relationship when you are not together.
lol.. witty as well
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
zombies rise out from their graves...
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Yeah I try to copy Joseph Conrad.
well, i looked at your guitars.. :)
and at your writing style :)
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
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Zombie, QS. I am a zombie. Look at my points. I must be a zombie.
Boston, you obtrusively remind me someone...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
lol I just can't go to sleep when someone who wants to talk to me is awake..
I am getting a bit bored now though so I think I will open an online chess game with someone to exercise some brain cells too.. and since you know me, you know I am not boasting, I can do all this at the same time...
sandee...that's what you call a multitasking addict lol
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And that's why you are a Zombie.
QS I am posting on 5 internet forums at the sametime while I am chatting with my brother on Yahoo and my friend on facebook. I am following a movie on tele at the sametime while listening to my friend blabber away sitting in front of me, I think my typing speed is upto speed ;)
And what do you improve at the Irish Harp or so? Drinking skills? Beautiful life, QS, beautiful.
QL does not substitute a life..it is part of life..also it depends on your typing skills.. faster you type, less time you need to express yourself in full.. and while other are reading your BS, you are gone and having fun at some irish harp or so.. if your typing is not too good, well... spend all your evening on QL.. also useful, at least you can improve your typing skills...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Well ok, atleast some club wants me ;)
zombies... :P
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Thank you wacky... But what a minute, which club.. zombies??
welcome to the club then sandee ;)
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I can imagine what you are feeling.
Much has been said, all have a grain of truth.
You know exactly what you want. You're just asking to make sure you're doing the right thing, or if you regret the decision, you can say to yourself, did what any other man in my situation would do. I can not regret.
But note:
* She betrayed you with another man. you had finished.
* That friend is that? if it is really your friend, will not comment with others about what happened. If that friend comment, let it. he has no character.
* She was sincere. even at the risk of losing you, it was sincere, honest. she did not deceive you.
* Virginity is not synonymous with loyalty or fidelity. you can marry a virgin girl and she will betray the future.
Forget what others will think of you. forget what others think of his decision. if you did not love her, you never have doubts. you love her. follow your heart.
to forgive is a virtue.
be forgiven is a human need.
Zombies.
They are all dead asleep...
Ask somebody else.
I just have too much life, what to do ;)
Sandee, people with 0 or 20 have a life!!
Oh so I am a zombie too ;)
A typical Qler with more than 1000 points.
What is a zombie?
which is sad... i become a zombie too sometimes :(
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Most of us are zombies here.
then he must be dead...a walking zombie
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What should he do, his heart says nothing, and he doesn't have a mind?
i can't believe how narrow minded some guys are. and even have the nerve to brand women as such.
vandyk, this is your life. do what your mind and heart says. just do whatever it is that will make you happy. wish you all the best.
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I kind of understand his feelings. It's really disgusting to get knowing that your (even at that time) ex-GF has slept with your friend.Especially with your friend, not just with some stranger. It hurts, no matter what. May be in your mind you know it's not a big deal, since you weren't together, but what to do with your heart? Sometimes we can forgive but not forget...
i think the guy just needs some time to deal with that. Only time will show whether he is able to accept it or not. And his decision will have nothing to do with all our opinions.
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Why would you go back to her when she has been having sex with another man,, AIDS ..VD and the lot, Yuk
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
~~~ DrEaMz UnLimiTeD ~~~
A negative thinker see a difficulty in every opportunity,A positive thinker see an opportunity in every difficulty,wish u an optimistic life.
Newtons Law of Romance
LOVE CAN NEITHER BE CREATED NOR BE DESTROYED,
IT CAN ONLY BE CHANGED FROM ONE GIRL FRIEND TO ANOTHER...
Alexa I think thats why they are making it compulsory for a pre martial checkup..:)
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Alexa, you couldn't have said it any better.!
He feels so small.
Lolxxx Sandyy
Are you feeling bad that she had a lover during that time while you had none?
When in doubt leave out..women are the most complicated living matter I find and unless properly managed, do exceed the borders...
Chill out all, I was only joking.
Anyway, you cannot hold her responsible while you both were free from each other.
yes 3 years is too long and it is normal that she will have a relationship with other guy. You should not blame her if she did have and you were not for the past 3 years. Yes it is normal also that you feel that way because of all the men in doha WHY UR FRIEND?????I mean how that happened that you dont know if you say that man is your friend also, doha is so small to know about it you know. Anyways, it happened and ur gurl is honest about it and it hurts like hell knowin about it. So my one cent advice if you still need it.....THINK!!! If you really love her that much you will accept and forget. Although I know in the future it will come between you--that subject ---that she was physically involve with ur FRIEND....Agen...THINK!!!
GOODLUCK ;)
She didnt cheat you n den you guys were not together for three years...Do u expect her to wait for u the whole life???If u not happy as simple as dat just quit n den y dont u look at the positive side that atleast she told u bout it...
Anyways listen to ur heart:)
not think negative its effect u badly...think she was right...keep happy with what u have
Be with her in one night, all alone, just you and your ex, and if you can honestly say you don't feel anything for her after that night, well its time to let her go.
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I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not scared of the dark, I'm scared of what's in it. I'm not afraid of love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.
folow ur heart dude... world is neva satisfy wid either of ya decisions...so follow what u want to haf....either ur GF or the worlds attitude??
wish ya luck... n do post ya final decision or ur stand up realtion ova here...thanx
W!tH b3sT r3GArd$,
AjNaB!
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We love because it is our need. Love and ego never go hand in hand. Either love kills ego or ego kills love. And if you don't follow your heart, both love and ego are killed. If she is good and honest woman, it shouldn't matter even if she has slept with 10 other men.And if she is not, then she is useless even if she is a certified virgin. Love is not about winning or making profit. Either you love someone or you don't. There is never a reason for it and if there is a reason than it's not love.
I know many men who marry women for a particular materalistic reason and it gives them immense satisfaction to think that they are so clever and smart to follow their brains, but as they reach middle age , they feel like a loser and start chasing everything in skirts. It's better to be stupid and happy than be very smart and unhappy.
Are you nuts?......no doubt I am crazy about you!
If he's willing to come behind you without telling you first. Girlfriends come and go, enojy her for now, then when she is no longer appealing to you something better will pass your way. Then go dot your "friends" eye for being a jerk. (just not around here)
i admire the honesty of that lady and i admire your courage to post it here.
progress
as i read the comments with your issue all of them are correct. however still YOU who will decide, maybe your decision would change your life in the long run.
I guess she deserves forgiveness from you no matter what. however, having an affair with someone while still committed is not acceptable to me lalo na nagsex pala sila diba. what i mean is that its not good to continue your relationship with her the fact that she cheated you. but you can be good friends but beyond its a big NO NO.
as always jordan
in the first place... SHE has a reason why she did it to you and why did she told you about that.
if your a liberated type of guy,talk to her sincerely. ask her the reasons why she had to do those things. Then ask yourself if you are ready to accept her despite of everything she and your friend did.
but,if your a conservative guy and you think there's nothing you can do to forget and accept what she'd done... don't think about her anymore and leave her! she also needs to learn her lesson...
we can never give you an advice accurately. its both of you who knew what happened and if it will work out the second time. but if you're asking about the physical relationship.. snessy is right she didnt cheat on you, at that time, you weren't together. so whats the fuss about?
what is up with you guys?? you can have as many physical relationships as you want but when it comes to women... what? you see us as "spoilt food". what a great conclusion!
-=The desire to do what you shouldn'T is the very desire that defines Humanity=-
taking her again will be bad or might be worst... u will lose ur self respect in ur freinds circle ... as at other end its ur freind as well not any third person to whom u will never see , when ever u will see ur freind this thing will bother u and end of the story u will feel guilty for this gang relationship . and who knows she will not do it again behind u ...
You were not together so she was free to do what she did.. Forget what happened, it's not like she cheated on you.
it's up to you now dude
and...
if I were you, there's no need to take it longer if you couldn't stand her past " . . . " unless you truly inlove with her and accept what so ever happened. snessy is right, she didn't cheated on you at least she revealed not like other who keep on hiding things with thier better half. Likewise for Jamskie, think it a million times...
cheerssss...
"love is blind"
"love is all that matters"
She never cheated on you! You weren't together when she was seeing someone else, so that shouldn't be a reason to split up with her. I personally wouldn't recommend being together for the other reason though, because if it did't work out the first time, what's the point in going through all that again.
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Its only for you to decide what you want to do. Think about it, make a decision and then go with it.
leave her.
Imagine if you would be on her place.
SHe wont even bother to speak to U.
Since you hadn't a relationship for 3 years you must be an inattractive man. Normally one finds a new love within 3 days. So you better take what you get.
Olive, you must be hungry, right?
"Think 100 times before you take a decision, But once that decision is taken, stand by it as one man" - Muhammad Ali Jinnah
Its not about virginity Khawaga. Its about your whole life.
"Think 100 times before you take a decision, But once that decision is taken, stand by it as one man" - Muhammad Ali Jinnah
Culture clash!!!
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I don't like the drugs,but the drugs like me. :D
Wow! A bunch of haters up in here today. I can't believe I just read so many lines like "friend poking your fire" and "eating food that someone else threw out." Why is virginity so highly valued on QL?
Thanx a lot every1 for your advice...
really need time to think abt it.. as i just came to know abt it last night
You guys are disgusting pigs.
it's OK, it's like riding bike, once did it you'll never forget how to do it again, so 3 years isn't a big deal.
Yalla!
:D lobot
"Think 100 times before you take a decision, But once that decision is taken, stand by it as one man" - Muhammad Ali Jinnah
CONGRATS.....................
BUT NO TO MARRY.....
Wow. You guys do realize that women aren't food right? I'm sure there's more to this girl then sex. If he really cares about her he won't care about something so silly as who she slept with when they weren't together.
for me no spoiled food .... how u can live ur life with such a big thing ... i am 2000 % sure it will make ur life hell... any time u ppl will have small issue will lead it to her past which will end up with big issues ..
you managed to live 365x2 days without her..y not the rest of your life..
I don't like the drugs,but the drugs like me. :D
You will go through life having visions of your friend poking the fire and you will hate both of them..
Move on...
Once she did, she can do it again. Keep expecting.
"Think 100 times before you take a decision, But once that decision is taken, stand by it as one man" - Muhammad Ali Jinnah
listen to your heart..jus sit and think about it..i know the thing(physical relation) will be poking you for the rest of your life..so just take your time and come up with a decision..I don't like the drugs,but the drugs like me. :D
Ditch the bint and move on ....
WTH?
Do You still want to eat the food you thrown out and was eaten by someone else?
u can still go on with her,, but just remember ur friend has already tasted what u r supposed to.. & u may never be able to make eye contacts with ur friend (with whom ur girl had physical relations) when you marry her.
Apart from this,,, listen to ur heart. :)
~noms~
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"Before God we are all equally wise ' and equally foolish" - Albert Einstein
I don't like the drugs,but the drugs like me. :D
So your "Ex-girl" friend is now a man? Do you accept him as a boyfriend?
You were broken up, she was free to do what she wanted.
not willing to accept her then send her to US Qlers
some one will accept her
just accept her as a gf...
Each individual will have their own opinion. Its dump seeking advice on this kinda issues. Its your life, do what your heart wish!
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