Monitoring a guy obsessed with my girlfriend
Yes, people. This is an odd title for a thread. Sorry guys. Just needed to flush out on my recent personal situation. I'm not asking for an advice or something but here's how the story goes:
There is this male co-worker of mine in the office of the same department. Been working with us nearly two years and been used to it. The guy was always weird. He's lazy, feeble, always wanted to get the advantage on everything, I never trusted him since because anything he does is not convincing in a professional manner. He's just plain bad attitude...for a small guy!
He usually asks any officemate, even me, anything like an alibi. And as much as he's asking more on my girlfriend with his usual routine. Well he didn't know we already had a relationship since months ago only kept civil and not too obvious in the office and we never told him yet. We let him continue doing it like an everyday courtesy to keep our secret relationship a bay and smooth. But the day I only started to properly monitor this guy was the day he was trying to take a serious quiet stare at my girlfriend right...in...front...of...me!
I knew it was fishy. I didn't know things were changing. The only thing he's doing lately was to drool the pictures taken from their Eid trip everyday in his computer. Specially that picture when they're sitting together in the car. Nothing more other than his pretentious lazy work. He even forgets any other possible hobbies he have (well he really doesn't have a proper hobby anyway). This is why I know his actions were now an obsession rather than just a natural kin of friendship.
I can't get angry at him out of civility. I usually am in control of any situation and have plenty of hobbies for me to relax and contain on our relationship with my girlfriend. But lately I'm out of focus because I'm too concerned as to what other alibis my male co-worker will do next. I don't know whether it's time for me to smack his face off by now for getting too obsessed with my girlfriend. And I don't know whether I have to blame myself or my girl on letting him too much out of just an ordinary friendship.
shes is flirt.
You'll need a little drama here:
1) Tell to the bugger that you're in fact her cousin!
2) And she is already engaged
3) With a rich and strong man
4) Who wants to meet him
4) A.S.A.P.
5)For clarifications...:)
You can ask a good friend (married only), 4x4 shape, to "play" few times as her fiancee.
stopped somehow and now. You have to ask your girlfriend out of just getting to know what is happening exactly. I'm not asking you to go insecure, not trusting her or question her as if there is something really going between the two.
Tell her that there is something bothering your relation with her recently and that thing is someone is showing interest in her.
Don't jump into conclusions and just look for answers or reactions from her. If she looks fine as if she is aware, if she does not give a damn to the guy, if she is just ignoring or him or if he is bothering her in different ways or place other than office through different communication ways.
Check if what is happening is drawing her attention, she is aware of it or not. Any idea what does that guy wants from her? Because it seems that he won't stop ... he might thought that picture means something to him while it does not to her.
Is he aware somehow that you two got something or you are just too good in hiding it that he does not know? Can you ask her is she told him something like I have a boyfriend and he knows somehow that it's you?
If he knows then he might be up to something so be careful of what might happen next. It's kind of difficult from your side to do something if you both are trying to keep that a secret, but it would be easier for your girlfriend to find a way to shut him down.
I don't really know what kind of guys would ask and beg a lady to go out on a single date with him while she is telling him: I have a BF? Indeed he is one big jerk ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
...whenever she passes by. It was me who used to sing along with her. I stopped singing the day the guy starts singing.
I think I have to tell her now to start snubbing the guy off or else I really really AM going to struck the blow on the guy out of loss of control.
By the way, it was the guy's camera that took a picture of my girlfriend beside him. The company went on an Eid trip on a beach. I was sick at that time that's why I didn't get to join them.
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
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kick him in the nuts???
Ooppss...we're in Qatar, you could jailed for that....
LOL vegas. My sentiments exactly.
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and what more do you expect from heero
You can't teach experience...
what if he snorting deep in his throat.
Source:
- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)
My gf has a housemate who will not leave her alone!!!
She spends quite a bit of time in the house with this guy, either watching tv or having a drink but they are never alone and always with other friends.
This guy has now started telling other housemates how he is in love with my gf which is now making me look weak for letting this guy disrespect our relationship.
She tells him that she is not interested and has a bf but he keeps on begging with her for "even a single date"!
I trust my gf 100% and i know she would never lie and all the trouble is from this guy.
What is the solution? Should my gf cut this guy from her life or should i bite his nose off???
gf also.
heero_yuy2...welcome to the fcuking mind games....that only girls play so well ....
Maybe the girl is leading your competitor on....
Maybe the girl wants you to acknowledge your relationship....
Maybe the girl wants to see you squirm ....in the uncomfortable position...
agree with happy and FU!
"Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you(Wag kang gay-an, kung mang gagay-an ka, wag gay-on)"
Cool it hero.. dont get worried much.
Thers a saying in our language. '' If you have a nose which falls down when you sneez, let it go''
cheers buddy
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...with the one you love...Talk to your gf and show her the light!
Keep the guy out of this otherwise you might end up looking like a fool...
Source:
- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)
Quite surprising that even when hero has said that he doesnt want any advice so many advices have been given ... and so much noise for just a photo shoot of a girl with a guy in a car without knowing the facts of why, where and in what circumstances... a few even called the girl a flirt....
comeon guys hero is one among us... he just shared a situation, with respect to a person whom he cares for, with us which is troubling him ... if cannot console him dont give him something wrong to think which can jeopardize his relationship with his gf...
Don Robert... well said ...
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Was it related to work?
I didn't drink the kool-aid! -- PM
heero_yuy2... jut be urself...things will fall back to places...atleast if she deserves u.
peace
really i have the same feelings might this girl flurting with both guys ...
U need a dictionary and check the use of the word 'alibi'... and gf is a flirt checking out what other possibilities there are...
shes a flirt.
why dont you screw him? forget everything, and give him a good SHOT out of work.
this kind of people are AH so dont let him go further.
lol, it's normal to have pictures of us with our co-workers. I have pictures of me and our already married secretary inside a car while on a road trip with friends together with her husband so it doesn't mean anything.
I think the reason is simple, the guy likes the girl and he is showing his affection coz he's not aware that she has a Bf and sometimes some guys misunderstands the politeness that a women shows and thinks that the woman has a physical attraction towards him also.
Again if you trust your GF then don't worry, just tell your GF not to talk too much with your co-worker. so to avoid confrontation between you and your co-worker.
"Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you(Wag kang gay-an, kung mang gagay-an ka, wag gay-on)"
Oops.
The internet is our revenge machine
this guy still not sure as she is his gf , might be already dumped him and now she is other guy gf ... he should know first she is who's gf
what i feel from whole story i think the girl is double crossing , might be flurting with both guys ... bcoz going out on eid trip with other guy and having pics in car is definatly fishy .. did u werw aware mr lover that she was going on eid trip with other guy ????
.......simply tell that guy to keep a safe distance as she's ur GF ;o) ........
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...............double post
you let your gf be in a car with some guy, and even have pictures with him?
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Trust the force Heero! Trust the Force!
Hmm hero, monitoring the monitoring guy. :P
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Ummm... 2 things... why is your GF in his car on Eid ??? that needs clarifying..
Why does your GF not tell him to bugger off.. why all the secret monitoring and checking and stuff. Let her tell him to back off and thats that...
If she is gonna be treating him nicely and so on he may think he is in with a running chance....
And as for him not having anything to do - looks like you dont even if you have so much time to sit and monitor what he is doing !!!!
.....simply talk to that person directly...let him know about your relationship....and Khallas.
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Source:
- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)
you have a male,lazy feeble co-worker who is obsessing/ interested in your GF?
is it too far fetched?:(
Heero, why you keep relation-sheep secret. Declare it infront of that guy, when he is staring at your GF. But remember, staring is not a crime.
heero, trust her. If she disappoints you, look for another one!
you cannot do anything about it but obviously your GF can. i would suggest her to avoid this guy... as much as possible tell her don't give this guy any chance to come near her. sitting beside that guy would surely give him some lingering feelings.
it will not be good if she will continue to give attention to this guy. if not necessary, tell her don't talk to this guy and make herself busy .... busy with you! lol!
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mai lain pa!
it is really a fishy story, why not pop out the thing that you and your gf are on a relationship. maybe your gf have been showing motif in which that man wants. so just a little advice tell your gf not to be close to that man if you don't want any trouble. good luck!
In order to keep your base strong, first approach your GF, ask her if she have ANY feelings for this guy too. Convince her to tell the truth, even if you might not want to dare hear the unfavourable answer. Should she reply with a NO, just walkup straight to that guy, & unveil your relationship status. Tell him everything & that will be his first change. Next time he again does the same, ask your GF to go up directly to higher authorities & complain about this guy of giving her wierd looks.
~noms~
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"Before God we are all equally wise ' and equally foolish" - Albert Einstein
Why did your gf take an Eid trip with this guy? Why does he have pictures of her with him in a car?
so be it!girlfriend for what?as long you didnt married to your gf,theres a possibility,that other can take her,when youre out for a couples of second,minute,hour,day,month,year,or forever..what a poor guy you are...
Perhaps you should man up and go tell this guy that she's your gf. That should stop him from obsessing about your gf. If that doesnt work tell your gf not to entertain him. Khallas!
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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LOL heero u are one strange character.
--------Do I look like Bambi's sister???-------
If you trust your GF and you have a very good relationship then you don't have to worry about a thing. Just show your GF how important she is to you and never mind that co-worker of yours coz he'll get tired of his fantasies someday. Your being conscious of him might start a fight between you and your GF.
"Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you(Wag kang gay-an, kung mang gagay-an ka, wag gay-on)"
Smack that all on the floor
smack that ........
smack smack smack him
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Though it's not in a company's rules/regulation but relationships within the office premises are frowned upon by the management and office peers. So, heero is in a bind as he has to keep it a secret for personal and career/work reasons.
The way I see it...heero will now be "obsessed" with the other guy obsessing his (heero's) GF...
first yu invetigate GF, whether she too has any softcorner with him/
if not, ignore him, he is just a jerk. tell her to snubb him and he will go off the track
heero is in love ;)
well, that's the price you have to pay for keeping your relationship secret, you open the way for others to be in between you two without them really knowing it... be careful, in the end you might find yourself the one obsessed with your girl... and who knows, maybe the other guy can smell something going on between you and he's just challenging you to be out in the open...
there's a saying: "It takes 2 to Tango"...so check if your GF is still your (faithful) GF just to protect yourself from heartaches,deception and all that crap...