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Jdylan, I think it has more to do with the type of people you are exposing yourself to and not nationality.

I do believe we are all here to eke out a living and send money back home. Not many people are looking to settle here permanatly, buy a house and retire here.

Y'all need to diversify. I have friends from my country but have even better friends from all over. I honestly believe that if you think you are going to find quality friends in a bar in Qatar you will be very dissapointed. _____________________________________________________

"Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock - Will Rogers"

Yes, I do SO enjoy hanging out with expat Nepalese or Bangladeshi men who sit and stare at me like I'm an alien.

Believe it or not, despite enjoying other cultures, I really do appreciate sitting and talking with my own kind of people, about issues we have in common. I've tried talking with many expats, but it doesn't really go anywhere. Most I've spoken to have limited experience in life, and are only here to try to eke out a living and to send money home.

In the end, I've always drifted back towards my own countrymen for "hanging out" or conversation. It probably has much to do with "having things in common". I've hung out with my own countrymen and if we have nothing in common, the conversation dwindles to a halt.

I would have said 'come on, let have a beer' if:

1) I did not have a penis

2) The list of demands would not have been incredibly narrow-minded.

3) If I had a sense of a spontaneous and flexible individual.

Aber nicht mit so etwas....

unless s/he will have decent life

lol

stop loving yourself ONLY...

be humble

Beeing German here feels the same!

you are NOT american

lol

be humble

My goodness, what is wrong with all you people? You all seem frustrated and bored. Why does nobody just answer " hey, come on, lets go for a drink"? So, I do!!

Negative? Since when is straight forward negative?

In Doha be flexible and value the people among you, each and every single person has its own schedules, way of living and fills in life according to their insights. Entertaining these people can be done on occasion, regularly or not at all.

Having a list of demands is a very bad start and will complicate matters significantly.

Hang in there Erika. Dont let all the negative responses bother you. I really dont see why you are getting all of the negative chat. You want friends who share things that are common. I doubt very seriously all of the negative people out there felt at home when they arrived. They packed up with people they were comfortable with just like everyone does. So tell em you were not asking their opinions and shut up. Apparently they think their opinions mean something. Which they dont. It dont get much better here. This country is having growing pains just like the US back in the 50's. They will find their way, but all things take time. Till then you wont have left turn lanes, timed lights, overpasses, parking,etc..............

why only girl friends why not boys hmmmmmm

something wrong

Perhaps she's too busy with all her new friends

gone silent?

Shame that you think that because someone changed their religion and "even adopted the abaya" means she is closed minded and ruled by her husband.

I think you need to broaden your perspective Erika, then you may not be so lonely.

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Sure no problem!!

Oh my god, female and no cell... how will you survive? Just stick to sending call-requests :-P

lol k ill add ya :) this thing's too slow. And to top it am in thru my cell :s

Sure no problem!!

Oh my god, female and no cell... how will you survive? Just stick to sending call-requests :-P

lol k ill add ya :) this thing's too slow. And to top it am in thru my cell :s

Oh well, I am merely a couple of stubborn megabytes in cyberspace :-)

Yes I have a FB.

and thnx 4 the compliment! :)

haha ur too much for Ql. U on fb?

I am sure you can, just bite ... and do not let go...

lmao they do actually but i can handle ;)

i love this response, and ur open mind. Hi 5* :)

Ladies may bite you though :-)

Hi 5* to you Eyecandy...... :-)

Promise me you'll answer from the heart, instead of politically correct, even if this means you'll have to face a sh*t-storm

:-)

But I guess the gents here will go softer on what is literally *Eyecandy*.

just a shame that some people just choose and enjoy being nasty and sarcastic while they are actually open-minded too.

kinder heart is a heart of gold.

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that was to harmagedon :)

i love this response, and ur open mind. Hi 5* :)

Being new in the place, Erika's first comfort zone is her own pot, country men, people of the same culture, way of life where they could speak on almost the same level of frequency, same language of ideals and sentiments.

i can mesh well with any nationals but whenever i am in a new country, i'd ask, are there Kabayan here?

Don't you?

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Don't I know it Harmagedon, I am a pale, greying shadow of my former self!

Labda, except for politics and religion... I am the same. Only, on QL always in off-duty mode.

Lol Typical Brit....

I believe 'growing up' can be done in several ways. You can be very successful and mature without becoming old. I have always been surrounded by proto-types of successful individuals with eternal youths, you just need to keep A separated from B.

Problem is that marriage usually starts the decay of youthfulness and awesomeness, the accelerator being kids and a dog :-)

Typicalbrit, I believe no one should speak freely, especially on the internet. It's just not right.

Harmagedon, I think on QL it's the other way round for you :P

Young and vibrant or hanging on to your long deceased youth?

Labda - Thats the beauty of the internet. Why should anybody mince their words.

I am innocent until proven guilty Labda :-P

LOL Harmagedon, you don't mince your words, do you!

Gica Contra, lets!! ;)

RIP my post! :(

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Typical Brit,

Unfortunately I have a continuous Mid-Life-Crisis, which started at the Quarter-life-crisis, before that it was just plain young and stupid, yet responsible professionally.

Hence my continuous young and vibrant state of mind.

Mid-life crisis.....hmmmmm, I hope im a few years from that yet. you never know though.....

You, on the other hand....perhaps you have already had yours (many, many years ago). Any warning signs? Did you buy a new car? Dye your hair? Let me know how you handled it.

That list, or the post, was (even though true )merely to indicate that socializing and creating a circle should not go hand in hand with a set of demands.

Btw, I am not as big an a-hole as a look in writing :-P

You keep on coming back to 'young and vibrant', I sense some frustration. No worries though, when that phase is over, you may embrace your upcoming mid-life crisis.

I must have mis-interpreted your post when you list all the different nationalities of your 'friends'. I took that to be a show of how 'culturally diverse' you are....

Thanks for the link but I know enough slang terms to get by for now.....but I may refer to it if i get left behind by the 'young and vibrant' members of Qatar Living.

Yes indeed, the Urban dictionary. And no thanks, slang I leave to you, I would not want to steal your 'Jolly thunder', if anything let me be a helping hand in brushing up your 'slang skills' http://www.peevish.co.uk/slang/r.htm. Enjoy!

So now I am also culturally diverse, thanks!

Where did you get that description from? Urban Dictionary....indeed, very educational.

I would have thought someone as 'young and vibrant' and culturally diverse as yourself would have already known the meaning of this term.

Oh well.....

Naff.... well there is a word I need to google.

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British slang, today meaning uncool, tacky, unfashionable, worthless... or as a softer expletive, in places where one might use "fuck" as in "naff off", "naff all", "naffing about".

Origins of the word are disputed, but it appears to have come from Polari (gay slang).

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Hmmmm... very educational.

Yes I would have Alexa.

Get off her case Harmagedon...... And who describes themselves as 'young and vibrant' nowadays? Sounds a bit naff

Not Hostile Alexa, just honest :-P

All I can tell you is what my husband keeps telling me every time I find something new here that takes me aback -

You're not in Kansas anymore.

That being said, it's probably time to stop wishing for the life you had and to begin to discover what your life could be in Qatar. Life might be very, very different now, but whether that is good or bad will depend entirely upon your attitude.

Re-read Txsbigfoot's advice - I'll second it.

Best of luck to you!

You're right, Alexa, ppl need others with similar backgrounds until they're comfortable in their new surrounding.

Novita,

Me think she should have stayed back home where she is among 'equals'.

Alexa, I am a big boy... I can handle. So I do invite you to be crude.

Or were you making a statement for the sake of stating anything?

Come on, let your sharp tongue slice my Dutch heart until it bleeds!!

My reason for not seeking Dutch people is simply the fact that the Dutch are known to me, hence less interesting. Plus, I do not see the world as countries and nationalities, I see it as a bucket full of variation. And this I wish to know, this also goes for the females, I like multi-cuisine :-)

me think this first time for erika to leave her home country hence all of her requirements for friendship.

Hi, Erica..

I'm Qatari, I wear abaya and am 'sort of' a housewife.

(I'm just trying to help you eliminate some possibilities).

No, I would like you Alexa to slap me and my countrymen in the face as this is the only way for us to evaluate and learn from the feedback...

Hence, Alexa, .... you may start.

Lol Alexa,

And why is that, care to elaborate?

Yep Labda,

I have NO friends of my own nationality, do seek them and do not need them. If I want them, I'll go back home.

Me no like you Erika! Me eastern ideas.No western. Me like dependent women.Women dependent of love, friends, laughs...

Labda06, let's share a melting pot together! ;)

I second "labda06" comments!

Judging your little statement here Leigh, you'll have difficulties.

I am a young vibrant guy and have the following friends, ranging in age from 24 to 55.

- Muslim Ladies (covered)

- Housewives

- 1 American (go figure)

- Qatari's

- Romanians/Bulgarians

- Greeks

- Lebanese

- Jordanians

- Canadians

- Australians

- Pakistani

All from different backgrounds, different levels. All have a different purpose. Some I have coffee with, some I have beer with some I just talk to on a regular basis. None are disqualified because who they are or what they stand for.

With your 'set of demands', welcome loneliness.

Erika, hang in there. You have stepped back in time. And you better get use to the way it is here. If you want to meet up with others then join some clubs, walk the dogs at Qaws (they can use the help) and eventually you will make more friends here. One other thing is to take up golf, lots of American, English, Austrailian women play.

True to say Labda.

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Gypsy..Why dont you give her your number and invite her for outings...like you did in 'Fed up of Men' thread! LOL

i m busy

What I cant understand is why anyone would bother coming to a melting-pot of nationalities & cultures and then fervently stick to people from their own countries / like societies.

Interesting.

Erika, theres lots....well....there are girls here that are just like you, I suggest either joining the QL Social Group, or just getting out there to the bars and introducing yourself. I know it's really tough to meet people when you're new to a place, but don't worry, most people here are pretty nice and at some point EVERYONE here has been in your shoes. :)

Ur request seems too desperate and creating conceived ideas too.....

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

Your psychic evaluation results have already arrive.

Here are the results:

You are extremely a dyke!

Graduated from Xavier Institute for Higher learning.

"I was lucky enough to meet one girl from America through her Qatari husband but when I met her I found she had converted to Islam and really seemed to enjoy the role of her husband calling the shots, even adopting the abaya."

Are you coming here with preconceieved ideas :o)

Lol Drac...

I'm totally on the same page as you! i'll shoot you a message with my details and let's hang out! :)

Erika_....dont get upset with the responses.... thats normal on QL .... lolzzzzzzzz

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Whenever I find the KEY to SUCCESS...Someone STEALS it.

Drac

Very good respond for this questions

I better sleep in my romm rather than going out with stupid people

i am sorry that i am not your cup of tea unfortunately ... :o)