Is there nothing like true love left in this world ?
I have known this man for a total of 10 years now, two years of friendship , 4 years of courting and now 4 years of marriage.
He is or shud i say was the most gentleman i had met , a very good natured and character man. Two years bak i discovered his so called friendship with an Indonesian girl , when I confronted him he said she was just a very gud friend etc... Then followed our quarrels , mis understandings etc...as I kept telling him that if she calls him four times a day , making some or the other excuse it is not right etc...he shud break this friendship as at one point I called the girl (my biggest mistake ....shud have just confronted my husband as she was nothing to me)...and blasted her..... I can say and all say that my husband is (or was) a gem of a person....
and she tried to take advantage of that ......as he cared for her a lot as she portrayed herself to be the most inncoent , victimised person on earth infront of him. He thought she needed his help and advise and it wud make her a better person, and if he cud make a difference in her life ........why shudn't he try to change her.
But actually he fell for her charms .......she talked filth and gave him open invitations ....He fell and drowned .....and instead of changing her HE CHANGED...he started lying to me and sleeping with her.
My fights and arguements kept continuing on ...for the past two years (on and off) with him ...till recently.
I found out he had slept with her (for the past two years on and off)....but he says he did not love her and she told me the same that he never told her that he loved her , he just cared a lot for her.
My small world is shattered ......I am hurt and in pain , have decided to leave him.....the moments he spent with her keep flashing infront of my eyes .....I try to forgive him but cannot as he broke my trust ....!!
He was in it knowingly and willingly that hurts me ..and is killing me ..
I have seen a lot of broken homes and broken marriages and I definitely can say that it is always very PAINFUL to be betrayed by the one person you had loved and trusted over the years. Healing is a long and painful process but in time you will finally gather yourself and learn to pick up the pieces. As I see it, you are much better off without him, because a philandering husband who lies once can lie again a thousand times more, and it will only leave you more shattered and bruised. Never think that what happened maybe was your fault in some ways. There is never a justification to betray a loved one. So leave him be. Focus on yourself and try to be happy again. Do not dwell on the past and on your negative emotions. They will only eat you up slowly.You can do it. I am sure there are still a lot of people who love you. Just think that he does not deserve your love afterall.
so sorry for you and what you have to go thru is all i can say.i know its not easy but just try to pick yourself up and try not to think so much about it,you cant change what that has happen.life must go on.I know its easier said then done but try k.
take care and try to be happy.
No
Your husband's infidelity doesn't deserve your love.
hi Savazo,
sorry to hear from you anyways please remember one thing that life goes on and you cannot keep thinking about your past / bad expereinces as it will only give you pain and nothing else
the same thing happend with me but, i am male and can not even explain you how difficult is it to accept the fact since i always has been protecting my girl and she ditched me
i did forgived her and that made her to fall in love with me all over again but yes sure this does not mean she has any right to repeat the same in future
i dont knw if i did wrong or right but, atleast myself i feel good that i forgived her and kept my self respect as i did not wanted to compare me with others
take care and regards
That hurts. But remember that what matters more is not the number of years you have spent, it is the years that you will spend with him.
People treat us the way they do maybe because we let them so. We always have an option. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.