My Muslim Husband
by Sumayyah Meehan
It's been 12 years since I married my Muslim husband and the road has truly been long and winding, but happy. At the time we got married I was Catholic and had no intention of converting to Islam.
My new husband was very understanding and only asked that I at least try to read an English translation of the Quran from time to time. I agreed. We soon moved to Kuwait as the U.S. economy was so weak at that time and it was impossible to earn a good living.
The minute I stepped off the plane I was thrust into a whole new world that was full of Islam, Muslims, cultural traditions and a whole new way of thinking. To say that I was shaken to my very core, in blind terror, is an understatement. All I wanted to do was to jump right back on that plane and fly away from this strange new World.
Yet through it all, my Muslim husband was by my side every step of the way. When I found that his mother’s cooking was too spicy, he made sure that other food choices were available, including American gourmet items like McDonald’s and Pizza Hut.
When I was homesick for my family in the US, he stayed up with me all night consoling me and offering to take me "home". Through every happy moment, every illness and on the days when I was so sad I could barely summon a smile, my Muslim husband has been right there holding my hand.
He is my best friend, confidant, and the father of my children. He equally shares in changing dirty diapers, spill patrol and nipping temper tantrums in the bud. Nothing fazes him, not even kids throwing up on his brand new shirt or his having to wash the dishes when I am too tired to move.
It's unfortunate that Muslim husbands, especially, get such a bad rap in the Western media. Quite often Muslim husbands are portrayed as control freaks who force their wives to wear "Islamic garb".
The reality is that both Muslim husbands and wives often choose to follow an Islamic code of dress because it is ordained in the Quran and Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad. It is not an issue of force or a war of wills.
Allah Almighty says in the Quran what means,
{ Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: That will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty. That they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof } (An-Nur 24:30)
For me, personally, I came to Kuwait wearing a t-shirt and blue jeans. I wore what I choose and neither my Muslim husband nor his Muslim family said anything to me.
However, my husband did continue to ask me to read the Quran. His gentle, and sometimes nagging, reminders paid off. I finally started reading the Quran and my hunger for more and more Islamic knowledge grew.
I searched and scoured until I found the truth I had always been looking for within the pages of the Quran. I made the decision to become a Muslim and I went shopping for my first hijab all by myself.
My husband turned into my teacher as he taught me all about Islam, fasting and the Islamic prayer. When I made mistakes or faltered, he did not scold me but increased his own efforts in teaching me everything properly.
His patience was remarkable as my own grew thin. I wanted to know a lot about Islam and it was just not something that happened overnight. But it did happen.
Islam has brought a sense of calm to my very being and a serene atmosphere to my home as well as my marriage. Since I became a Muslim I have noticed that I am less stressed or worried about the future.
I have a lot more patience and do not get as flustered as I used to with the little nuances of daily living. Through the Quran and Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad I have learned what this life really is all about and strive every day to engage in good deeds that will open the door to the next World to come.
from: http://www.readingislam.com/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=1219185304...
Well, try to fall in love for someone, who's familly threatens to abandon her if she dares to marry someone outside their religion.
dmighty:
"His teachings are simple and easy to follow. It is the world wicked charms that makes it hard for men to follow Him easily."
Fully agree with you.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
very basic. The only reason you will join or convert or (revert) is faith on the true God (or Allah). Any other reason is impure and unacceptable to Him. Other reasons maybe a "WAY" but should not be the "REASON". Holy fear of God will make your faith strong and will not make deviate from Him.
His teachings are simple and easy to follow. It is the world wicked charms that makes it hard for men to follow Him easily.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
"conversion to a religion should never be based on love of another human being. It should be based upon your beliefs in the religion itself"
Sara: That's a good signal, means that men on that part of the world are receiving a good education, but as i stated previouslly it's a question of education, not religion, would be easy for me to put here infinite love stories where none of the members is muslim.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Being a good husband, could be from other religion but my Muslim husband is pretty much the same. Supportive and shows so many consideration in many small ways that one can't help to relate this good behavior to his being a muslim. Seeing him live by the muslim way and coming up with this beautiful result-slowly i am gaining respect to islam and agrees in a lot of its teachings. All of us are in search of the True religion but it is not what others will say it is..it is what we feel and find.
Wiz: Fully agree, education is what really matters
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Haven't read everyone's comments but it seems like its been a lively discussion.
My only comment is that the thread seems mislabeled. RSomeone's description of her husband would describe most Western men of all faiths. She married a Western man to get this level of equality, sharing of child-raising duties and emotional support. His particular religious beliefs could have been Christian, Jewish, Muslim or even Rastafarian.
It's not his Muslim qualities that make him so understanding but the fact that he was raised, educated, or employed in the West that makes him such an appealing man.
None of this is to take away any of the love she should feel for him though.
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Since Allah has given me a brain, it would seem like a sin not to use it.
PM: I agree, it's only semantics, if everything works out i'll convert, ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Blabla: REligion is important but as Jesus said, Love each others as i have loved God, to discuss religion is almost the same as discussing who was born 1st, the egg or the chicken?
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Arien said
"Teaching them nothing on earth is greater than the religion."
Unfortunately, Without this there is no Islam Arien. One has to believe in this to be a muslim. Some take it seriously, some don't..
Arien: fully agree with you, religion is something private
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Ernie/Blabla: Thanks for your words, i'm leurning about Islam, it's not that i don't belive in Allah because i do belive him, and because i see him as a perfect being it's hard for me to understand why all religious books have so many contradictions, but that doesn't mean that Islam or any other of the monotheist religions isn't based in pure intentions, just that involuntarly people may haven't understand the true meaning of God/Allah words, but i respect everybody beliefs and like to leurn about all religions, including the politheist ones like hindu and former greek/roman/Egyptian religions, :)
Yesterday night i spoke with my love and today i'm so happy :D
RS: I'll reconvert but i never was a religious person but doesn't mean i don't care about it, anyway thanks 4 your kind words, i should go to Lisbon mosque one of these days to see if they help me understand Qur'an ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Realsomeone.. Thats the problem this world is facing now.
thtas what creating extremists.. thats what making people kill even their parents and kids.
Obsession to religion..creates extremists... wht makes obsession ? they way the small hearts are braught up, Teaching them nothing on earth is greater than the religion. Time to change.
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If you want loyalty,
Hire a Dog!!!
I priorities it on top, for me its not only the word religion but a way of life. that is how i see it.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Realsomeone.. Regarding role of religion.. keep aside wht you believe..look at the end result of it ..look at whats happening around teh world.
Its all how you prioritise religion.. if you keep it on top of your wife, kids, parents, friends and society.. I will call them extremist.
I have palced it much lower. for me its ma family and friends which comes first.
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If you want loyalty,
Hire a Dog!!!
So its basically God who puts the child on the 'conversion' to a different religion path by placing him into a non-muslim family in the first place and then expects him/her to 'revert' later on!
As it is for a born muslim, following and understanding the religion wasn't difficult enough. Now we have case where someone who was born and brought up in totally different religion / culture and expect them to go thru the process of self-doubt and confused state of mind before reverting to the true religion!
Some are lucky to have a friend like you who guides them to the true religion, while others in places like inner parts of China haven't even heard of a religion called Islam. Back luck to them!
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exactly Rayyz that is why i am saying he is a slave of God originally unless his parents or environment diverts him/her from being the slave of God (which basically is worshiping the single creator of this child).
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
"We call it REVERT not convert, as we believe every child is a clean slave of God for them to go back to their MASTER when they lose the right path is what we call a "REVERT"."
Well it's not like a new born had a choice! Whose decides that he is to born into a Christian, Hindu or a Muslim family? You certainly don't expect an infant to realize the meaning of religion right from birth!
He/she only grows up and follows what is taught by parents.
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Alright. blablabla that is your opinion of course. i believe the opposite.
Supernurse, you dont think you are born as slave of God (a Muslim) as you said and i respect your opinion.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Realsomeone, I believe a religion is an obstacle to speak logically.
just blahblah;
mmmmmmm.....that sounds a bit cultish for my liking, reverts,the right path and all that.....I guessed thats what revert meant.......so you are saying that everyone is born a muslim?.....Nope, not me for sure!
We call it REVERT not convert, as we believe every child is a clean slave of God for them to go back to their MASTER when they lose the right path is what we call a "REVERT".
Arien i respect your opinion and of course i believe live and let others live but i have the opposite opinion towards the role of religion.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Ohhhh i am interested...especially when you blatantly show predjudice towards my culture matey.....
Believe in what you believe.. why bother about others??.
Live and let live.
Every single religion is good.. conversion is a crime according to me.
I dont like or believe in any religion.. I am human
Religion has done nothing good to human.. it has killed.. it keeps killing people..
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If you want loyalty,
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There is nothing wrong discussing religion, in QL there are people interested and there some who arent interested no force at all, there are guidelines to ignore what you arent interested.simple
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Yuck! I hate that word REVERTING! They are NOT reverting they are CONVERTING and let me tell you when the marriage breaks down they will be quick enough to REVERT!
Plato you made a wise decision to understand religion. You know, I observe all Islamic rituals, I fast,pray,give charity and recite Quran by God's grace. But I don't discuss religion because it makes little sense to those who don't want to believe. You can be wise being religious. Just try. Religion gives a meaning and direction to one's life.
God bless
Thank again RS , she is not Qatari but she is from around the gulf and she will take a permission from the goverment for us to marry when she is ready, she told me to wait as she wants me to learn and understand more about Islam, she doesnt want me to marry her just bcz of loving her but she wants me atleast to accept Islam when atleast I know something about it and i like it not by force but by knowing it well.
Platao keep it up man ..get someone who can explain u what is exactly is Islam not just reading books, read books and get someone to explain to you what is Islam and what is Qur an say.
I found the true life in Qatar!
nice to read a "success" story here :)
i think islam brought them closer together :)
more power on ur marriage!
"para mi amor esta loca"
Eco: You mean those that belive only in God/Allah?
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
majority of ppl are reverting because of their beloved ones. Its like behind every revert there is woman or Man
I am proud of those reverts who did for Just Allah alone
ALLHUMDULLILAH my sis is married to One. He was kicked out of home got worst treatment at work place. No one was even ready to marry a him
Ernie: Thanks for your kind words. I already started to study Islam, just that i'm a racional being and whenever i read an holly book, i don't belive in the Book, either it's Bible, Torah or Qur'an.
My girlfriend asked me to be the only woman to whom i get married even if it allows 4, and i agreeded, 1 day i'll show her photo to my QL buddies and they'll understand that i don't ned a 2nd wife, even if i know that one of the reasons why muslim marry with more than 1 wife is to prevent that due to the high number of women in the muslim world, they marry other to prevent her from becoming a public woman.
RS: Sorry if i look a bite cranky today but i miss her so much, i'm addicted to my girlfriend, sometimes i have "withraw Synthoms".
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Ernie that is really wonderful i am falling in love with your story :) i dont know the prospect of Qatari women marrying a foreign even if he is a Muslim but at least you will take something from her love and that is worth "Islam".
You mentioned you have been to fanar that is great place to know islam from the right people two friend;s of mine work there, i have been collecting books from there for almost 2 years now for my wife (which is also western revert) so keep it with that place.
May God led you to the right path.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
well this was very intresting , but unfortunately i was busy at work and couldnt be online. Realsomeone in one of your post u have mention my name thanks for that, dont worry brother Iam inlove yes but remeber : the reason of loving her is her behaviour and her behavior comes from her religion thats what she told me, when i told her how come you are so intelligent and good person she said this is Islam. she helps , she advises , she listens , she never stop me when i talk nonsense about islam she waits till i finish and then she helps me understand, all that made me love her. so my case is diferent looks like i love her and if i love her so i love Islam bcz she got it from Islam. she said this is how to be a muslim. to other brothers like platao I just want to advise him this: if you really love her try to learn Islam not for her but try to understand Islam first, for me as long as she said she wont marry non muslim i told myself let me learn islam and see if i can love it then i will win this woman if not then i will give up.
QATAR IS WHERE I FOUND REAL LIFE
Yes! 4 wives are allowed for one in Islam... BUT... There are some certains valid reasons behind them.
If one fails to point them, shall never step for 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife. N' if did so, is a pure sinful.
Look Logicaly ... Never claim a blame...!!!
If she had accepted Islam wholeheartedly she would accept those 3 as well.. any doubt?
just blahblah;
How she would feel? she will at least know that her husband is in another legal relationship compared to a western wife that doesnt know that her husband is having anonymous girlfriends.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Can tell me how does she feel if her husband marries another 3 ladies and bring home? Since it is allowed in islam?
...to a simple truth that All Religions are a result of Marketing genius. I have written and debated enough about the relevance or irrelvance of religion to understand this. The more we exchange ideas about religion,the stronger it's success is. Religion is a demon which is out now in full force to devour mankind. Please don't hang this spritually retarded non-believer for saying so. May I rest in hell.
Life is Beautiful...Indeed!
Owen, I don't want to make it a topic either. just saying things can be otherwise...
just blahblah;
discrimination by some people today, will probably be considered as justice in the future. Human has very limited capability to know everything. God knows the best.
errrr.. so as real said, this topic is not relevant to you? ...what was your issue again?
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
FS, No, we are born muslims..
just blahblah;
its you or your wife who converted to Muslim?
Owen,My patience is what my wife doesn't like!!
just blahblah;
How do you want to change her thoughts? to where? if you are Muslim and she is Muslim the topic is irrelevant for you.
if you are talking about convincing her in general that depends on your personality.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Blablabla: I wanna belive it too, just feal sad with this kind of descrimination
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
blablabla it's not all being loyal.. what can i say, i guess she needs more to see something in you to make her follow what you exactly wants... as what was written above, the man did not show any impatience..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Owen, well Ive been loyal to my muslim wife(Im muslim too) for years but couldn't change her though I did all this coveted husband did for that lucky woman!
just blahblah;
Owen agree with you, its rare.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
the husband did not put force on anything about Islam and let it be guided/motivated by his faith and patience... which leads me to my question, seldom for a man to be like this (no offense to any guys here)
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Atleast der r people here, who giv respect...!!! God bless u!!!
Its your choice. but be optimistic people are changing now, humanity is winning over religions..
just blahblah;
Owen: Inspiring? Only inspiration i see is that Love is superior to any religion.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
this is a good story... very inspiring to some of us..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Legendwar: Exactly
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Blabla: Yes, that's why i never give much importance to religion, it splits people, religion will always be the cause of hate between all humans.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
I'm lost too! LOL
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Human consider faith prior ... but not a religion...
Never walk on a so called made route. Look into it, search for the Truth, Move it n' Then Play.
Matter a fact, any of man called religion is wholely not a book to be read and saved in mind.
We are living on a Planet b/w different communities & casts. Never consider oneself right from rest of the facts but concentrate on, why different casts gets created pretty often!
Leave a sign ... of vat one is!
Plato, I think even christianity or Judaism are not rational for that matter but their followers, to be wise, are making it look like!
just blahblah;
My friend we are talking Islam not western culture, if you want to have your own culture then a Muslim girl is not for you that is the teaching of Islam whether you consider intolerant or not for us its a sign of obedience to Allah.
and any God fearing Muslim should abide the rules no matter how difficult it may seem.
Islam is all about wisdom.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Blablabla: You are right, how can you belive in a religion that it's irracional?
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Realsome: If that's the way, love doesn't matter, than my racional side tells me that Islam isn't a solution but a problem and that it really doesn't represent God's word.
All humans are equal, at His sight, anyone stating different is a liar. It's too sad, my friend. Discussions are normal, but both have the same rights and obligations, in Europe, women are the responsables for the kids education. To be able to discuss and leurn and understand we need to be tolerant, and one day even muslims will understand it. That God/Allah enlightens your way before it's too late.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Its difficult to have wisdom in religious talk especially in Islam. you cann't help, you have to say what religion says...
just blahblah;
Lifeisbeutiful, I just couldnt stop laughing, im still laughing infact....
just blahblah;
No! Not @ all...!!!
Ahmedis do claim of their Muslim religion but are not mounted to Muslims nor are allowed in Makkah.
Get Clear...
Anyone who claims to be Muslim is allowed in Makkah. period.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Well then why are Shias allowed in Makkah?
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The correct way is the Way of the prophet muhammed (pbuh) and the Holy Quran which is widely available with correct documentation.
Allah knows best.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Another question that arises is, what is the correct method? Shia or Sunni? Both claim to be correct! Both have way different ways of offering prayers especially when there is a very well defined way of praying in Islam. Keeping this point in mind either one of them is wrong for sure.
However, both are allowed to visit Makkah, whereas, Christians or Hindus aren't. What's going on here?
I have only highlighted a major difference in Islam. If you start going in-depth, there are so so many differences, who knows who is right and who is wrong? Have you ever been to smaller towns in India itself let alone other parts of the world, they're all following and practising Islam way different than what people do elsewhere. Who is right?
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Platao- My friend responsibilities of man and women are different, women gives birth to child man do not, lots of arguments and conflicts will arise between the non Muslim man who is the head of the family and the Muslim women.
Allah knows best of this matter.
Echo its individual responsibility to practice Islam its not collective for the community, its the single person that will be accountable for what he/she do in this world on the day of judgment.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
But Realsomone has previously posted a topic which says Islam is not in need of its followers, its the other way round. So whether anyone does or doesn't practice the most relevant method, it still is relevant in today's times!
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RS: oNLY 1 QUESTION, why can this woman be happy and convert for love but i can't convert by love, that makes me feal or any other man from any other religion that Islam isn't that perfect as muslims say, it descriminates, this history could be considered has fake, once the muslim man is so marvellous towards his non muslim wife, but i, non muslim, can't be marvellous to my muslim girlfriend, maybe future wife.
Sorry Realsome do not intend to offend, just leting you know how it makes me feal.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Hmmm, is that why there's so many places correctly using it?
its absolutely relevant for day to day living, goverment, business, law and in every field. when implemented correctly.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Well it's not accurate to say that Islam is relevant because 1.5 billion people claim to be Muslim, when a good portion of that don't practice it, is it?
Well that is their problem Echo, practicing the religion is not the religions problem its the person's. if they practice good for them if they dont bad for them.
the majority i know practice it even though there are seasonal Muslims.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
There might be 1.5 billion people who SAY there Muslim realsomeone, but how many actually practice it?? From my experience here there aren't many Muslims who practice Islam properly.
LifeisBeautiful i dont know what you mean by that, but what i was trying to say is dont marry the girl marry the religion and the girl should follow.
Rayyz i respect your opinion but i have a very different view and yes Islam is very relevant today that is why above 1 billion citizens of this world enjoy its beauty TODAY.
formatted Soul i dont call becoming Muslim a conversion i call it revert, Allah knows best and he knows what is the intention of people like Platao who say they want to convert because of a girl that their choice but i guarantee that relationship is not gonna last long until one of the two changes their way complete otherway around.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
It would be great if everyone converted because they truly believed in the religion, but it's just not realistic, especially with a religion that bans marriage outside of the religion, as is the case with women in Islam. The men who love these women have no choice but to convert.
most people I know converted because they don’t have any other option to marry a Muslim Girl/guy. Only few of them really converted because of their liking towards the religion. I haven’t ever met any converted Muslim who did it because of the religion...hidden motive is always LOVE.
Plato - you are also learning Islam because of your Muslim Fiancée right?
to a religion should never be based on love of another human being. It should be based upon your beliefs in the religion itself.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
We're not getting into that! :P
But yes I so agree with your previous post.
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You don’t have any testimony? LOL
I don't believe Islam is relevant to now at all! In fact I think it, and all other religions are completely irrelevant, outdated and archaic and give us no practical advise for living in today's world.
You seriously didn't expect her to make a big jump and write an article saying she made a huge mistake right?
I have my reservations over your claim that Islam is relevant for today until the day of judgement. If ever there was a need for God to prove his religion and a time for a messenger, it is NOW! Human race has progressed so much in last 50 years that they didn't so much in last 3000 years before 1950! If there was a time for a religion to adapt and humans needed a reminder, it is NOW!
Moreover, its been 1400+ years since a messenger has come, its about time I guess.
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Appreciate your post. I'am a dumb ass non-believer.Please Pardon my Ignorance.I'am an ignorant spritually retarded non-believer.I don't know the ways of the wise men like you.
Life is Beautiful...Indeed!
thank u
you dont hurt my feelings come on its ok to discuss, i know that is ur believe but I believe in Love too but there is a reality that cannot be denied.
LifeisBeautiful I dont know how you can think that this women lost when she feels that she is the victor and by the way i dont agree that all religions are same. i believe all religions that promote one God are from the same God but God sent his messengers and religions in different times and i believe Islam is the relevant one for today until the day of judgment.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
real: Like someone posted, "love breaks all barriers on religion, language, culture and geographical borders", no ofense buddy but i wont go further to prevent hurt your fealings.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
...to the lady...now she can find each and every truth that she could not find in her religion. God Bless her and condemn her previous religion to hell. I pity her actually.I wish everyone who converts looks at their religion deeply before deciding to jump ships. Every religion has same messages.It's just that the grass is greener on the other side and we as human beings consider the most 'practical' option as the best option.The lady in the story has to spend her life with her muslim husband and her muslim in-laws.Therefore,the most practical option for her was probably to convert.I call such people - People of Convinience.
Anyways,it's good for her family life. May god bless her.
Life is Beautiful...Indeed!
Well as the title says the article is mainly about her Muslim husband but she brings her reversion later in the article.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
So is the article about her Muslim husband or her conversion to Islam?
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lol Platao your case is different Mate. as i told you before you should abide the rules and your loved one too, if she is God fearing Muslim (she cant marry a Non-Muslim, Sorry for you).
but also you shouldnt convert for a girl, learn the faith first and led it with positive light without paying attention to the media.
ernie your story is interesting. but also like platao dont convert to marry the girl that wont end in happiness.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
:) My wife is revert too.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Nice story, good luck to both of them..
Esdm....ROFL....thats a good joke..
TESS: THANKS, I'm in a similar situation but some folks here called b*tch to my gf just because i ain't muslim.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
ESD: LOL
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
it was a joke mate.. i did give the heading "joke"... dunno where it dissappeared...
cheers!!
Who said nothing is impossible?? I've been doing nothing for months...
esdm: I'll take it as a joke, but it makes me remember how some folks here react whenever someone has a different opinions from them.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
A man is taking a walk in Central park in New York. Suddenly he sees a little girl being attacked by a pit bull dog . He runs over and starts fighting with the dog. He succeeds in killing the dog and saving the girl's life. A policeman who was watching the scene walks over and says: "You are a hero, tomorrow you can read it in all the newspapers: "Brave New Yorker saves the life of little girl" The man says: - "But I am not a New Yorker!" "Oh ,then it will say in newspapers in the morning: 'Brave American saves life of little girl'" – the policeman answers. "But I am not an American!" – says the man. "Oh, what are you then? " The man says: - "I am a Saudi !" The next day the newspapers says: "Islamic extremist kills innocent American dog.
Who said nothing is impossible?? I've been doing nothing for months...
in one..
Obviously the athiests and agnostics will pooh pooh the religious aspects, as is their right as per their beliefs, but for many religion can provide the guidance for a happy and fulfilled life.
Religion is not the cause for exrtremism. But the people belongs to one religion always been on the receiving end and when they reacts against the aggression/attrocities, the blame goes on the religion. It is the media propaganda to project all extremism on a particular religion. When a muslim involved in even a personal argument, that will be highlighted as "Muslim fight", while the other religious people even kill someone, that will be notified as "a person killed his neighbour". That is the way Media brings the news to public. So extremism is the creation of media and master minds behind those dynasties.
May allah bless the couple and strenghen the IMAN of all muslim bro and sisters
rEAL: Thanks for explanation.
Extremists are everywhere, just that for years we all heard about Israel-Palestine conflict.
In Europe we have I.R.A and E.T.A., the difference is that they don't target people but cars or buildings and always warn people to abadon a certain area before the bomb goes off.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
very intresting story, Iam american been in this great country since Aug 2007, I met arab woman who happen to like her very much because of her behaviour, she is God fearing and i met her in some of friends house where their family friends were invited for some function, she didnt talk much but when when we started talking about Islam she was explaining very well, i requested to talk to her more asking if i can invite her she refuse unless if its family gathering, we talked many times on phone as i requested her to teach me about islam. now i love this woman and i have already went to fanar where she advised me its a right place to get to know more about islam, i have read some books they gave me but still i need some more to know iam ready to convert if she agrees to marry me, i told her this and iam looking for a more secured job in oil companies so i can sattle here. Im ready to fight for it as my present job is a contract of month to month. i still need to be in this country to learn more and to show her parents that I accept Islam and ready to marry her otherwise they will not accept me if im not true to Allah. besides i like this country very much to sattle here if she agrees then our life will be within the gulf. she is a very good muslim person. she made me who i am.
I found the true life in Qatar!
Lucky her!
I am not sure if anyone is killing people for religion but possibly for nationalism, land, political agenda etc.
but what you see now a days in Muslim countries is a result of indiscriminate aggression and people want to revenge but some of them took the wrong way for revenge (such us killing innocent people).
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
I agree to you 100% , none of the religions teaches extremism and war.
But the end result is, war in the name of religion.. allover..killing 1000s of innocent people. There may be political agendas involved..
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"why extremists are born than any other??.whats wrong and why is this happening? what can be done??"
if you look at modern history, almost all the (western) aggressions are against Muslims and their lands:
Zionists invaded Palestine, USA is supporting the zionists, Kashmir, USSR invaded Afghanistan, Kosovo, Serbs killing Muslims, Albania, Bosnia, Somalia, Iraq, USA invaded Afghanistan, Chechnneya, Israel attack Lebanon every now & then...etc.
The only solution to fight extremists and stop the people from supporting them, is: don't give them the reasons! LEAVE THEIR LANDS (Specially Palestine)!
I am beating my wife almost everyday as I am a non-believer.
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Arien extremism is a political agenda or a result of discrimination. Islam doesnot teach extremism indeed it promotes "moderate view".
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Realsomeone.. May I ask you..The religion never teaches anything bad or negative to human kind, any religion for that matter..BUt in Islam ,,why extremists are born than any other??.whats wrong and why is this happening? what can be done??
Its juts a thouhgt. I am personally not against any religion.
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you have added enormous value to this thread!
And it all comes from a single brain cell! Imagine if you had two!
i can somehow relate *winki wink*
Cool Husband.. But I dont think he had any strong intention of converting her.. he gave her the freedom to decid.
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Platao actually the reason i liked the story is not because the women changed her religion but because how the man treated her.
and yes you will find lots of stories of Muslim men that treated women wrongly but that is not what Islam teaches. I dont defend the character of individuals but i usually defend the perfection of "Islam" which when correctly practiced produces a positive fruits.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Real: Interesting article, but as others, it's 1 example, if someone decides to go look for similar issues, i bet it will be found examples of muslim women that changed religion but never the less, we are all free to post about that kind of issues.
God bless you Realsome ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Absolutely I think he was a man of patience and caring. and that is the way it should work, things do not happen overnight specially the person can like your faith and culture when you give them time and be a good role-model.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
Totally in agreement with you bro. i liked this story.
Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!
- Jalaluddin al-Rumi
1.When you are lost...when you have an emotional & spritual gap inside your soul, when you want something strong to hold own to...Islam is the answer!
2.You don't force such a great religion on people. They will realize its majesty, and will come to it with their own will. This is where her husband succeeded.
If he had shouted on her: HIJAB...ALCOHOL...PORK...HELL..FASTING...EATING IN PUBLIC...WHY YOU TALK TO MEN?...etc, he would have give the worst impression about Islam.