On Being Single
All your life, you had specific dreams about what your family life would be like when you finally married. You were so intent on what you wanted; you even made a list of qualities and characteristics you were looking for in a spouse, in a home, in your job, in your children.
But time passed, and that person you were so intent on didn't come along.
All of your friends are married, had children, and had beautiful homes. And still you were single.
You prayed and prayed and prayed for that person to come along, but nothing happened. You had a good job. You served in your church.
You spent daily time with the Lord in prayer and studying the Word.
You dedicated your life to serving God in every way possible, but still
nothing.
So you decided to take matters into your own hands, and you began an active search for a mate.
And within a short period, you met someone who almost fit the bill.
Almost. Sure, there were a few things missing, a few rusty spots in that person's character. But, after all, no one is perfect. Of course, your friends and your pastor tried to counsel you that you were making a poor choice and that you should wait for the Lord to send the right person.
But that couldn't be right. You had waited for a long time. Maybe your goals were too high.
Maybe you'd been asking for the impossible. Maybe this was the person God wanted for you so you're character could grow through dealing with his or her failings. So you married. And your life went down hill from there.
Even though it often seems that God is slow to answer prayers, no matter whether it's about a mate, or a job, or our children, or our finances, or anything else, we have to remember that God doesn't wear a watch. Nor does He look at our human calendars. He sees with eternal eyes.
He operates on an eternal timetable, according to His plan and His
schedule.
If God seems to be running late, don't get impatient and run ahead of
him.
Wait for the Lord's timing in everything.
To the single folks out there, this is for you.
Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be. Single gives you space to grow. Sometimes, it is harder to grow when you are too close to someone. Trees are planted far apart so they can spread their branches and become strong as they mature.
Single means learning to live by you. However, that is no more difficult than learning to live with somebody else. Single means freedom.
You are free to spend a week's vacation on the beach, to take computer courses, to work late on an interesting project, to spend the day in bed with a good book or simply with a person who has read one.
Single means learning not to need a man/woman to make your life meaningful but learning to live with a man/woman because you want to be with him/her.
Single means that sometimes you will wonder why you will bite your lip and feel wistful and wonder if marriage is better. Ironically, yet
quite happily, single is feeling good about being in control of your life. It likes
and respecting who you are and why you are.
Single is realizing that being married is not necessarily better, it is merely different. Single means that there could be something wonderful around the corner and you can take advantage of it.
Single means you are free to love again. There are times when we are afraid of telling the person, whom we love or like, what we feel deep
inside because we might just lose them.
That's a big risk...I know. But hey....everything is. The way I see it is why keep something inside and then end up regretting it in the near
future?
But as I've said... everything is a big risk. So whatever you decide to do with your feelings... whether you tell it to that person or not...
you have to be ready with the consequences that come after it and accept
it.
Whatever decisions that you have made in your life is part of your growing experience... part of life. Whatever decisions that you have to make will influence or affect your future. So think hard before deciding
on certain things...
and PRAY TO GOD and HE will show you that way.
i wouldnt marry me,over and over again....lol
choice is in you,want to be single or not but never try to ignore some who love you...some good advice: WheN one Door cLoSeS,anoTheR opEns buT wE OftEn Look sO loNg aNd RegRetfuLLy uPon tHe cLosEd Door tHat We dO noT See tHe oNe wHich has oPened foR uS
in this world god created both man & woman, no body is an angel from both, both have missing items, that they can complete in each other, this is the aim of this life, to look for the best, which differ from one to another, and this is why life is going on.
its a long article, here i did summerize, my regards.
Simply......one of the best article i've ever read!!!
Kudos to you "Angel Eyes" for sharing such a beautiful and meaningful writeout.
well its a matter of belief
one its either he believe in fate, waiting for someone to come
second you write your own destiny, believing what you do will change your life you search for the right one until you find that special someone
third you believe in both you search and wait at the same time...
which do you prefer...
being single is the stage where you should develop yourself on how to become responsible and independent
remember,
Only the one who share his life with others is worth living...
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I think you have me confused with someone who gives a sh1t.
Being single due to circumstances is worse than being single by choice. Meeting the ideal partner is purely a matter of luck and chance. Some are lucky others are not.
Go ahead I am with you.
It's up to you to decide how your life will unfold
and whether or not you will choose to go far. From the beginig your approach was wrong with high expectations. My advise would be, be positive in life, don't give up and don't give in. Open your eyes and see things as they really are. Need help!
Yeah Right Matrimonials...LOL!!!...That was wayy off Target...LOL!!!But on second thoughts, please go ahead...be my guest to start this, but the membership for the Single buggers shud be free, and for the Married folks should be charged heavily alright...LOL!!!
For all those singles out there in Qatar, why not start a Matrimonials section on QL..
A Very Interesting Article and it was a damn good read, normally I dont read this in the early morning but this one somehow caught my attention to see whats goin to be in store...and hell yeah it was a good read...
I have read some of the other replies...
And the latest ofcourse Shenila, Single by choice or Fate...
What ever the choice or fate is, sometimes it takes a long time to realize that this person could be the one, sometimes things end up in a wrong choice, whilst we dont want anyone making wrong choices...all I can say, is s5it happens in life and the best way to stay away from s5it, is freaking dont get bothered, and throw s5it back at the person who gave it to you, its tough, but once done, can start making you feel a touch better...and thats the way of life, things go in circles...today single, tomorrow double, and they go round in circle and the man upstairs is watching all this,
Just got to hang in there people, FAITH is something that could be a good company, and ofcourse having said all this crap, all da single Ladies in da house, you know I could be a good company as well...LOL!!! Life needs to be beefed up, spiced up, and enjoyed cos this is only one shot at life...
Well it all depends why you are still single. As far as I remember, I have always wanted to get married and have babies and live happily ever after but destiny had something else in store for me. I never found the right man and somehow none of my relationships worked out. Ever since I was 18, I have been looking out for that Mr. right but unfortunately, all those I have met and known have been nothing short of assholes. Now I am 33 and still single but that only difference is that I am more realistic at this age. I don't have high hopes or desires in fact I have made peace with myself and my fate. I am mentally, emotionally and physically prepared myself to be single rest of my life. I am not desperately seeking a man anymore. If someone comes my way, well and good but if not, I am not going to lose sleep over it. It is the attitude that counts.
"When God Writes Your Love Story"?
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
all i can say being singles has duration, for men up to 35 for woman max 28,thereafter partner is a must! there are happiness in marital life that singles can't comprehend or attain which is wonderful and half of faith, You become more matured, responsible and leader.
for single the longer you become the more irritable,childish and insecure you will be.
what more? the most important your sexual urge is satisfied legitimately!...
afraid falling inlove again? for man should not be but for woman uhmm...that can only happen if the girl has a lot of experience from other aside from her husband b4 marriage other wise she is not going into naturally.
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"Born optimist,Nothing can keep me too low 4 too long.
Happy for what I have today but Tomorrow is really another day."
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The pressure on getting married is on booth males and females. Usually a guys family starts pushing after the age of 30 and for women it’s around 25.
It’s true that no one is perfect, but you should be able to live with some flows, and not make them bother you. If you are OK with the flows, then I consider it rude if friends or even family starts criticizing your mate. You make your pick and no one should influence that. Nor make you feel bad about it.
On the other hand, switching between being single to married should be an exciting and fun move to a better life, not take it as a burden.
Like u said, u have to get out there, and find your mate. Even if there are differences in the beginning, love will grow and overcome them eventually. Or so I hear.
I am still single, enjoying going here and there freely, driving my sports car, chilling with friends. But I am bored already from all that. I want a home, a women to love and cherish. But Love could be sweet, or hurtful. Or just a combination!
The pressure on getting married is on booth males and females. Usually a guys family starts pushing after the age of 30 and for women it’s around 25.
It’s true that no one is perfect, but you should be able to live with some flows, and not make them bother you. If you are OK with the flows, then I consider it rude if friends or even family starts criticizing your mate. You make your pick and no one should influence that. Nor make you feel bad about it.
On the other hand, switching between being single to married should be an exciting and fun move to a better life, not take it as a burden.
Like u said, u have to get out there, and find your mate. Even if there are differences in the beginning, love will grow and overcome them eventually. Or so I hear.
I am still single, enjoying going here and there freely, driving my sports car, chilling with friends. But I am bored already from all that. I want a home, a women to love and cherish. But Love could be sweet, or hurtful. Or just a combination!
Its tough to stay single in this world where everybody expects u to be with someone. But staying single doesn't mean u dont have any choices but rather having an opportunity to make intelligent choices.....;))
Thanks that you like it guys!!!
ok...just didn't want to get lumped into that generalization.
I think settling is what drives the divorce rate up around 50%. People feel forced to get married so they "fit in". They end up getting married, are unhappy, start cheating, get a divorce and adversely affect not only their own lives, but also the lives of their children who are innocent of making the mistake but end up paying for it in a broken home anyway.
being single....God wants me to be here
but still waiting...
((change the world))
I'm neither emotionally lazy or a coward. I am however single and happy. I don't run from committment as I've been in a few long term relationships that ended up not working out. However, I won't settle as the article itself states. *Almost* perfect for me isn't perfect for me.
Notice that I said "perfect for ME". I know there is no such thing as a perfect person, but there are those that are perfect for each of us and I will PATIENTLY wait until it happens for me...and until then I truly enjoy the freedoms that I have as a single man traveling the world.
Ohhh Angle tooo big artcle to read
but its worthy for reading
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well,who takes you in his arms in lonesome nights?how many times you talk to the walls or your teddy,just to hear a voice?and of course nobody there to entertain you.tv programm boring as usual and all your (of course married)friends exactly that time very busy with family affairs.but you hear them say*next time* for sure we will come to you.and why you should cook only for yourself?and so on.
na,single life is sad and boring after some time.so bye,bye single life for me.
:-D
Beutiful thoughts, especially the last paragraph!
The sad thing is that society at large has a sterotype. Being a single lady past a certain age has a bigger stigma attached than a man of similar age.
wass up..angel..too big to read ...please summarise..very busy
this article is good. I like the part that says "it's harder to grow when you are too close to someone."
Maybe becuase you tend to depend on that person, and in turn loosing your own identity.
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Everything happens for a
reason.