Why did he lie?

There are three sides to every argument: your side, my side and the right side

opps sorry did not see the date

There are three sides to every argument: your side, my side and the right side

This is an old topic, see the date, its 2 months back. I think luvhurts is fine and rocking. She must be in a fresh relationship again!!!!!!

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luvhurts take care men will be men n this part of the world lots of lonely guys out there so better choose your friends wisely dont be in a hurry watch n learn

There are three sides to every argument: your side, my side and the right side

...u know wht...this man doesnt deserve a good lady as you are...girl, its not your lose... its his lose...cheer up,, and dont stick your mind and heart to that kind of person... he is not worthy to be loved by you..........

Maybe he finally realized that he likes men better than women. Maybe...

"How we survive, is what makes us who we are"

The Dhow trip would b an xcellent place to meet up with every 1 ... Unfortunately ill b out of town then :(

Just watch who u get friendly with out here on QL or in general, Lots of lonely desperate men out here...

Gypsy, wow. you aspiring to be Cruella DeVille or something?

The poor guy must be dreaming of continuing dating a univ educated girl, hehe!

I think we should have a campaign for a "jerk-free world". We want a jerk free world and we want it now! *holds up a sign and yells and then gets dragged away by the police* hehe. But seriously that would be a cause worth fighting for!! :)

Yeah, im getting on with life. Signed up with QL social group and hopefully would join d dhow cruise. Would go to Dubai with girlfriends this weekend. I'd like to meet new friends and I think I found them in QL!

Thts what all of us r here for LUVHURTS !!! Well at least most of us !!! Hope u feel better soon !!! Try n mix it up with the social group etc.... so u can get ur mind of things...... Tk care !!!

Well thats really a bad story.How about to call your friends,to go out with them?I think that will help you a lot and the rest comes from alone.We here say*nothing is eaten as hot as it is cooked*.Smile.Anyway all the best to you and try to be strong for yourself.

Regards from swiss.

If you keep going on like this... i mean thinking about him and suffering, you will loose. If you continue to suffer, that looser will win and you will be the looser.

So just try to overcome from this situation as soon as possible. show that person that you can live successfully without him and that he missed a very good gl like you.

I know its easy to say than doing it. But u got to do it....

Like I said "Don't mention it"... my pleasure!

Take care!

Cheers!

"I know how and when to say "Please", "Sorry", & "Thank You"

thanks! i feel so at home with QL already, 1 week after joining!

"Cheers to the GUY that have us, to the LOSER that lost us and to the lucky B*ST*RD that get to meet us" ;-)

"I know how and when to say "Please", "Sorry", & "Thank You"

The more u think about this its gonna make u feel worse the best thing to do is to distract urself and to try and forget whats happening.. Theres always someone for everyone... Just try not to give urself up so completely to anyone before you know wht there intentions are....

U always have every 1 here on QL to make u smile :)

I am NOT bothered about it, i just wanna share my experience with other QL members. Why bother posting ur comment, anyway? Its clear u dont really have anything to say...

Do u know him personally or is it U????

On the other hand I did this to a guy before. Told him I was leaving for Uni a week before I actually did because I was bored of him and didn't want to cause a big scene just wanted him out of my life.

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then why bother about it? Leave it. Maybe he is finished using you and he wants to use someone else now. Thats all.

I would have done it and appreciate an honest answer if he only replied to my SMSs and calls. Sadly, he did not...

A 'good reason' for a blatant lie? I dont think so..

You always have the option to remove bone and eat the fish.

Well im bit confused. why cant you ask directly from your bf??? I mean the people in QL are only predicting things. They cant say exactly why he has done such a thing...

So, if you think u have done nothing wrong to him, just go and ask from him directly. He might.. i say he might have a good reason for his act. Get to know the reason from him directly....

true sl but still you could chock on a fish bone

***The biggest risk in life, is not taking one!***

Why worry there are so many fish in the ocean. may be next fish will taste much better than the previous one.

since he took you out for diner and gave you a memorable evening then i guess this guy is seeking one of two scenarios here:

1- Perfect closure for things. Just so that he can look back and think to himself, i sure ended things on good terms.

2- He has something planned for you and wants to catch you totally off guard. since he hasn't left the country yet and since you two have many common friends together.

either way, my advise to you is do not look back and do no feel sorry for yourself. If its meant to be then it will happen, if not, just be happy that you loved someone and was loved in return.

***The biggest risk in life, is not taking one!***

i know how you feel...give the guy a space...there's always a reason for everything...maybe during your dinner date he saw something in you... again....did change his mind and think things over again...if you luv somebody set it free..if it comes back..it's for you ...if not...well...that's how relationship is....i agree with fooldays....if a man wants you, nothing can keep him away...

if he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.....sorry.... just set it free........

When a door closes, a window opens.

Smile and enjoy life!

Shavonne girl, thanks for the support!

If a man is man enough, he would have the balls to say whatever is needed to say

He did not 'pack & leave'. He took me out to a lovely dinner, had great time coz he said he's goin for a business trip the next day; with a promise to see me when he gets back. A lying b****rd, I say! Went thru all the troubles of fabricating stories when he didnt hav to coz we both know he's leaving for good in a few weeks.

LOL

not exactly, but guys tend to avoid confrontation in such circumstances

***The biggest risk in life, is not taking one!***

He just cannot break it with you face to face! I will not take side but in reality its really difficult to admit that "we fallen out of love" and maybe he is just taking time to think how he will tell it.

You'll get through this, I am pretty sure its his lost not yours!

Cheers!

"I'ts better to lose a lover than to love a loser"

wade your revenge with the 10 following suggestions and you’ll get over him and feel happier in no time.

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Top ten ways to break up with a girlfriend?

10. It's not you it's me.....

9. Your mom really turns me on

8. Your dad really turns me on

7. I joined the navy, I leave tomorrow

6. I've converted I'm now a mormon, lets pray

5. I'm gay

4. I'm HIV positive, now lets get busy

3. I lost my thingy in a meat grinder accident

2. God are you fat

1. Do you want to get a bikini wax together???

I have never known a man to break up with his G/F by talking to her. We usually just pack and leave.

***The biggest risk in life, is not taking one!***

if a man wants you, nothing can keep him away...

if he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Computers have lots of memory but no imagination.

you're right luv. truth shall set you free.

we're all adults anyway. no balls.

I dont think the issue here is 'how much he's into me' Regardless of his true motives, isn't it better to always come out with the truth? It would definitely have saved him the trouble of fabricating lies

Get the book..learn

Oh there are alot of jerks in this world, and u were going to find out that he's a jerk sooner or later, so better sooner than later. U just saved urself alot of heartache in the future :-) He's honestly not worth getting upset over (I know easier said that done), ur better off without him.Instead feel sorry for him cause he has to live with himself forever!! lol, cheer up girl and welcome to QL :-)

hope 4 u the best!

don't waste ur time thinking about it, just let it out grab an ice-cream, and hopefully it'll go!!!

take it from me:

if god had ment for u and him to be perfect, luvhurts, he wouldn't have invented tommorrow...

am here since 1995 i know it. even i have lived in africa thats much more than this. doesnot matter me i can handle it piece of cake for me :D

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luvhurts, even owen is not feeling good but she can give you advice.

We cannot be in a perfect situation all the time... just deal with it as it comes. PM me owen anytime.

now darude, i just gave one big laugh for that... wait till august and you can say "what the hell is this place?!" just dont go out too much, that's the ultimate solution.

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**PEACE AND BE COOL**

starlight888, not good...oh yeah shav, sorry i forgot the comma there.. :)..but e46 understands...its just this kind of guy ugh! why are they like that...?

lol... same here shav... i thought he was e46.

how are you girl?

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**PEACE AND BE COOL**

Thanks for all ur encouraging comments. Im just new in QL, and I'm glad I joined. I need to keep myself busy to overcome this and I already subscribed to QL Social Group, considering the dhow cruise.

Love lots,

luvhurts

How in the hell am is suppose to stay cool in this heat.damn its gettin hot hotter in comin days the hottest.

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darude... keep cool buddy... she will be okay, with you and the rest in QL, pretty sure she will

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**PEACE AND BE COOL**

great sadness makes you appreciate great happiness...just you wait...hope is everything...

for a while i thought you were referring to E46.

Luvhurts> start pampering yourself now. Go to the salon. Shop around. Mingle with new people from QL.There's a Dhow trip being organised by Xena.

He's not worth it.

It's good that you have learnt about it, this early, than waiting for nothing.

You can join the cairo trip if you want to.

hi owen.. how are you girl? not hijacking this thread just a brief greeting for this sweet girl.

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**PEACE AND BE COOL**

and if you cant smile then jump over starlight code 888 and start teasin her badly sure that will make you smile alot. :P

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The mere fact that he did something like that is an indication that he is not man enough. A man like him is a complete loser. Instead of asking yourself why he lied, tell yourself that he doesn’t deserve you.

For now, stay calm, keep smiling, and look at the positive side of life. You have to be thankful because your misery has ended before it starts.

God bless.

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**PEACE AND BE COOL**

he is e46M3...and i just dont know, why our dear girl still dwells on him and ask why he lied...

Come on owen, say it, don't be afraid. He's a shit.

Maybe he’s a total j**k…and wouldn’t want to say it to your face what a great l***r he is…and just leave it all like that..

don't dwell too much on this one girl...

sorry, guys...not feeling well...

Maybe he hates confrontation. I guess he couldn't cope with having to articulate his feelings and suffer the consequences i.e. tears. I've found this reluctance 'to talk' the most frustrating thing about some of the men I've dated.

You're better off without him, but then you know that. Don't you?

Song is by Don Williams.

Is this topic serious or a wind up?

It's a JOKE, get it ?

Work like you don't need the money.

Dance like nobody's watching.

Sing like nobody's listening.

Love like you've never been hurt.

Live like it's Heaven on Earth.

Well it's sad that you had to face such a situation. Whatever it is lets face it that there are people like this in society. True friendship/love is quite rare. but as i always say this to myself. look at the bright side of everything. you are too good for him.. totally agree with river-rat. there is someone out there who you will find... just have to be patient for it to happen. sorry to say but DISAGREE with DaRude... Tc and keep smiling. It's simply not worth it wasting your time/being sad for somebody who does not even care about you.....

I have always wondered how you define love. Is falling in love really love or just sexual attraction. It can't really be love because it never lasts (at least not at that intensity). I read a book once called "The road less travelled" which attempts to define love. Quite interesting, but whatever way you look at it, love does hurt!

Patriotism cannot be our final spiritual shelter; my refuge is humanity. Tagore, Bengali Poet

Dont let this one incident ever make you stop loving people. The day you stop loving life, you might as well as give up.

Love IS beautiful, but sometimes it rots and comes in the form of your ex. Well, he is the loser. Someone someday will get even with him. He has asked for it.

we've all been there, not so nice but u do eventually get over it. I could cringe when i think about some of the guys i've dated and what asses they were but my saving grace is that i got out, dumped or doing the dumping, i'm thankful i escaped!!! and can laugh about it now.

Look no further. I am right here waiting for you.

thank u all, i'm overwhelmed with the response from u guys (to think that U R GUYS)

Guess there IS someone out there for me :)

get a life searcher, if u can't post something inoffensive and non-racist then just don't bother!!!!

thanks river-rat... u already made me feel better

Guy must be White folk, because White Lie

In my experience, we rarely do learn in these matters but I agree with e46, honesty and character are characteristics to look for in a partner. These are the things that last.

Patriotism cannot be our final spiritual shelter; my refuge is humanity. Tagore, Bengali Poet

We live and learn, luvhurts. This brings back the question; is it better to know the truth or be ignorant of it?

It's called character. And the guy doesn't have it.

As for you, that's one for your records. Life is tough and rough, you should get some of that in you.

All the best.

Some guys just don't have the decency to do the right thing. Sad fact of the matter in these relationships is that there is always one person more into it than the other, and gets hurt more. Count yourself lucky you got out when u did and that u are a much better person than he is - would you like to spend the rest of your life, have kids with a deceitful bastard like that. Not a chance! decide what it is u want in a partner and be realistic about where u are going to meet that type of person. Bets are on that it won't be in a nightclub so find a sporting, religious or something else u are interested in group and u are already halfway to finding the right person. Good luck and be strong - there is someone fab out there just waiting for you!!!

Thus my username - luvhurts...

thats why i always say LOVE SUCKS BIG TIME.

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