Why Do Bad Things Happen?
It's unproductive to try to explain why bad things happen. The "why" question generally lends itself to finding fault, someone to blame. Often, that someone is ourselves and we feel guilt over the event(s) that we imagine caused the bad thing to happen, such as I wasn't good enough or I'm so dumb.
On the other hand, it's also not productive to pretend the bad thing either isn't bad after all or didn't happen. It won't go away if ignored. Instead it will sink below the level of consciousness and continue to trouble in a stealth mode, with bad dreams and depression.
the question is ....
What you can do when bad things happen??
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Hello my friend sinni
Really it is very nice topic you peoples are discussing here. Pretty interesting... and helpful…
Yeah there are some guys, like me they are not participating the topic …but they are enjoying hot discussion ….
Sinni have a wonderful day
It's always darkest before the dawn....
forget the bad things...We all only have one life. It is up to us to really enjoy it. Imagine becomming very old and wishing you had enjoyed your life more. We hurry through our daily life, always busy, but we never seem to stop and just enjoy living. Please, take the time to enjoy things. Don't let your life tick away. Find the time to stop and smell a flower, watch a sunset, walk in the rain without your umbrella. Find the time to appreciate this great gift of life that we have. Share some happiness with your friends. Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories... So, don't forget to make time and take opportunities to make memories everyday. When I am old, I want to look back and remember that I did have a wonderful life.
smile Guy's !!!!
do what i do sinned, just put it to the back of your mind and get on with life!! no point in dwelling, you only get one chance at life.
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sir theres no problem with me, no need to apologize....
i know all of us here in qatar living(forum) have different atittude , but despite of that....i know all of us here have a good heart.
cheer up Sir !!!
smile,
sinned I want to applogize, I am myself going through very hard and uncertain times, some people are ruining my life and may sabotage my livehood though I don't remember doing any harm to any one before..I keep on asking myself the same question everyday, and your post about bad things came in the middle of a gloomy morning, and I thought of laughing myself out of it by writing this silly comment :)))).....I hope you get over whatever bad times you are having right now...
im waiting for that momment....
smile my friend,
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A bad part of my life but she left me with some amazeing moments in my life if we ever meet i will tell you about her she was beautifull
yah...sure..i believe you my friend.
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Bad things looseing a child nothing worse belive me i know !!!
I like killing puppies. I find that gets me through the bad times.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
if somebody giving me a problem, like before i start here in this forum, i smile and keep quit ,sometimes i cry ,then take a deep breath and smile again.
its me..
smile,
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Well when something bad happens to me, I acknowledge the problem, think logically about it and try to find a solution. Ofcourse inbetween all this there's the "I hate everyone" and "Life sucks!" phrases,talking to my friends for support (sometimes just talking about it helps), coming to QL to take the piss on someone, and listening to music to get the rage out of my system :-)
"you can do many things:
-resort to drugs
-get drunk everyday
-turn to relegion and become a fanatic, and later a terrorist
-have sex with every moving creature
-troll people in QL and turn their lives into hell
and of course there is always the good old fashioned suicide"
Let's see, yup, yup, nope, yup, yup, not yet. LOL kidding.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
There are three important steps to take that will help you deal productively with a bad thing that happens in your life.
Accept without blame or guilt:
Embrace the new situation as part of you:
Change it by looking for the opportunity within:
by:Jerry Lopper
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in your way accept it as a gift and ask for more:))
i respect your comment's...your a good man.
smile,
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i posted a straight from the heart comment there and my god, your enumeration there is far better...lol..
....bad things happen, i pray and i pray ...Accept that it happened and that it is indeed a bad event.Embrace the negative event without approving of it. Accept that it is now a part of your life. This doesn't mean you have to like it, nor welcome it. But accept that it's now with you. Not forever, but for now.
smile,
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you can do many things:
-resort to drugs
-get drunk everyday
-turn to relegion and become a fanatic, and later a terrorist
-have sex with every moving creature
-troll people in QL and turn their lives into hell
and of course there is always the good old fashioned suicide
well sinned, bad things happen for a reason..either you have to learn a lesson the hard way or it is a consequence of every choice you made...
what do i do when bad things happen..honestly, i dwell too much..i mean i spend time thinking why such things happen...i cry and think on my little corner until im all done..then try to get back on my feet (which is btw, hard..it comes on stages)..a lot of time to rethink and try to moving on..and sometimes, charging it to experience gives me this outlook to move on..