Men holding hands with men in Qatar
By heero_yuy2 •
first time I landed here for a job, the first sight that got me awkward was a guy holding hands with another guy, and suddenly I go "Whoa!" and turned into statue.
Up until now I can't sleep properly seeing every people around here doing that.
Is it, uhh, culture?
ts really funny seeing them but in their culture its ok..I've seen also kissing their cheeks, my friend said its a sign of respect. But in my culture, men cannot do that coz eventually people will say that they were gays. lols.
MY REPLY:
aren't they? whahahahahaha
sometimes u see somethings in ur way u cant see all of the world from ur eyes.. thay might be brothers,father and son ,cosens family friends ?dude u need understand
peace :)
"There not hurting anyone.. but they will be lock up if found out thay are gay living together". What a conclusion for both guys holding hands together... anyway, if they really were, i heard that both will face deportation after they've been locked up.
"Some of the worst things imaginable have been done with the best intentions"...
that is so funny
that is gay
nothing wrong with being gay man. nothing wrong with two guys holding hands together in the street. all i said was watch out if they live together man...i thought that was plain to read what i entered man.
it's just a matter of respect as long as it doesn't make any harm to anyone or to anybody. There not hurting anyone.. but they will be lock up if found out thay are gay living together.
Drovers dog.. we're not talking about gays here, it's about culture and tradition.. its a whole diff. story, not unless you're into a gay stuff.. get a life dude!
"Some of the worst things imaginable have been done with the best intentions"...
We have diff. cultures, traditions and religion. we're living in a multiculture country.. it's just a matter of respect as long as it doesn't make any harm to anyone or to anybody.
"Some of the worst things imaginable have been done with the best intentions"...
Tutor1 spoken like a true douchebag !!!
its really funny seeing them but in their culture its ok..I've seen also kissing their cheeks, my friend said its a sign of respect. But in my culture, men cannot do that coz eventually people will say that they were gays. lols.
nothing wrong with that, but it is our mind who suggest different interpretation. maybe it is their way of expressing closeness to their friends.
when my long lost friend come home to our province the first move is to embrace and hug him, it doesnt imply that we are both gay. we are happy to see each other, so maybe they are happy too, and they are holding hands to indicate their happiness and closeness...
get well and sleep well...drink LABAN (almarai)with pure honey so you will have a good sleep...
Why do people worry themselves out to a point of personal discomfort on other people issues(hands, legs eyes or nose. whatever!...)? Its their culture . They practiced it before you "discovered" and will keep on practicing it after you must have left Doha.My advice while still here,Get used to it and mind your business!
can i be your BAZOOKA!!!
i do not know what is this ppl come here to work then they speak badly about this culture . what is bothering u ppl if men kiss by nose in here .it is there culture and we should respect it . and if u do not like it do not do it , and for holding hands what problem why girls (women) when they hold hands we do not think anything wrong (lesbians ), same thing for the men here does not mean anything and i do not know some ppl like to make this country and Arab country down , u should look at your own and try to fix ,geys ,lesbians fagets divorced ppl, sleep with each other without married , a lot of v. bad things and the inflation, homeless ppl, poor ppl,and unsecure . if your country give everything u want, u do not come here. Do not drink from the glass then spitting in it .
You should travel more, all over the Arab world, men hold hands with other men..even in the indian subcontinent, it is no big deal..like when i shake hands with a close friend whom I am seeing after a long time, we continue holding hands for soemtime..it is not a bog deal, just a mark of friendship..just try to understand that you westerners form just a fraction of the worlds populace,and dont expect the rest of us to follow your rules..but if you prefer to smirk and lose sleep over men holding hands here, go ahead, it is your choice...
BS
It is cute!
It shouldn't be. Man holding hands can lead to adulterous feeling and the consequence is same sex affair. Very dirty.
no its not gay .. its brotherhood .. i know how it sounds ... but its brotherhood friendship .. call it what u want .. lol but its not gay believe me
personally i dont like anybody(Males lol) to hold my hand like that while we are walkin around the movie theater in Villagio or City center
most Philippino guys in here are cup cakes, seen couple of Indian fruits holding hands at cornich too.. arabs probably ram each other in secret, and they tell their wives they at work meetings,
what a mess
many are like that,thought they fags or something,but i guess they're not,just trying to tell myself its their culture
No, no, no... in my country men don't hold hands with other men. Those men holding hands are from other countries.
Did you feel left out OP? Is it as gay as getting teabagged?
mostly are indians expat do that awkward thing lolz!
maybe they dont want 2 lose their partners/friends/honey nyahahahaha!
uhhhh...many Arab Guys holding hands are more MAN than you will ever dream of being ...sorry ...but this thread is nuts...
Amnesia-- therefore theres TOO many "illegal" here in Doha?
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”
@peppermint, you don't need to distinguish because being Gay is illegal.
You should assume they are just friends. Even if they WERE gay, so what? You're from Philipinnes, you guys have ALOT of Gay people. So what?
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cheesecake_28 -- yeah ur right! Not only along corniche but also in al muntaza park every Thursday night. There u will see a lot of sweet males (in group)... (Together lying on grass, holding hands while watching the romantic moon!)
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"Bik Mety said " You must have never been to an Asian country. All over Asia, men hold hands with other men. Women holding hands is also very normal."
Correction please... holdings hands (both male) is not ordinary/ normal thing in Asia specially to Filipino males! For us those acts are for CERTIFIED GAYS only!
Here ME its part of their culture... we cant do anything about it!
But how can u distinguished the plain male friends from gay lovers through holding hands???
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”
I am amazed at this post..
As expats who have worked in numerous countries and lived in differing cultures, that we should continue to be so biased in our opinions regarding this issue.
In certain cultures, men holding hands is acceptable. This does not mean that there is anything wrong with it. It also does not mean that all men holding hands are gay. And even if they were - would it really make any difference to me as an individual..??
Rant over.. will go and have a soothing drink now.
women can do that, so do men!!
that's one thing that keeps on amusing westerners mostly ... i had a german cabin crew friend .. who was wondering the first time he landed in a mid-eastern country which i'm not naming .. "is this gays paradise or what?" ... then he came to know that its kindda normal here to see men holding hands
Heero - , be happy they're only holding hands !
i saw one pair inside City center sitting together in the bench (both males) leaning their heads to each other with matching holding hands. (how sweeeeeeeet!!!) =D
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from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”
it's normal for some to hold hands.
Funny isn't it, in a country where homosexuality is illegal, yet it's the expats who display the homophobia.
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wait till you see some of them resting along corniche and is laying on the grass as if they were lovers...facing each other and gently stroking each other's hair!!!whoooaaaaaaaa
bros over 304s
may be other guy was BLIND!!!
"I shall live this day as if it is my last. And if it is not, I shall fall to my knees and give thanks"
Who said its not allowed holding hnd husband and wife? you can even kiss but offcourse not at the middle (the center) of the mall or on standing outside the road and kiss but if you are seating in hiden place where people dont care to look what you are doing then husband and wife can kiss. but dont do as one white American guy who was cought at city centre him with his arab gf last couple of month, imagine : the white American with blue eyes holding hand an arab girl wearing abaya (full black) and they were seating on those bench at the middle of 3rd floor. so doing this is stupidity and they were cought and sent to jail, the American guy was sent back home after 3days.
I dont live with example..Reather I prefer to be an example!
Yes You can hold hands with your spouse in Qatar..If you need in writing, go to the local police station and ask them to issue a paper..
The touchy syndrome...when i first saw it was kinder shocked but now am used to it...
So can u or cant u hold hands with ur husband in public in Doha? And how wil they know he's ur husband and not boyfriend? Do i have to wear a t-shirt saying "thats the nut that married me"?
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Good and sensible post.. Thanks
I preface the below comments as that from an Englishman who's spent some time in the ME.
I understand about the men holding hands part having seen it many times, made me wince the first time, I thought there was a serious homosexual element in the region, hence the medical tests for visa's, aids anybody?
However I also remember walking around Mall of the Emirates (Dubai) holding hands with my son, in fact he started to feel uneasy & from that day forward would never hold my hand. He associated it with being 'gay', nothing else.
I personally don't have a problem with it, Qatar is much stricter than Dubai, most western heterosexual couples there walk around hand in hand as it's such an ingrained part of our traditional family lives & early boy/girl-friend relationships becomes a symbol; "she's mine" or whatever.
As more westerners come here then I'm sure it will become far more common a sight, its inevitable, like not smoking in malls has become...
Only in some places in the UK do you see adult men holding hands with other men, there it's typically a sign of being gay.
I'd hold the hand of a girl-friend but would not a male (own son excepted), so ingrained is that mentality.
I think it would be nice to see straight couples or close friends feel comfortable to do that, rather than being 'stared' at in Malls as most blokes would of two men holding hands in the Uk.
Holding hands is not necessarily a pre-cursor to jumping into bed together, it is often a sign of friendship, but as I say it all depends on the culture you're from & what is considered 'normal' to you.
In my opinion, a couple should not have to be married to partake of such an 'act'.
However, I respect the culture here, so comply when with a female friend!
Bangladeshis, Sri-Lankans.. etc etc
Without taking this to a too serious level.. Its all to do with culture. Comfortable personal distances. We in the West prefer to have certain accepted boundaries for proximity. This is different in Eastern and Asian cultures.
unless we're naked, then it might mean something. May be. Don't forget the nudists....ah to be a nudist in over a 100 degree weather!
are you sure its all over Asia? its just indians i see holding hands wit each other (pa-sway sway pa). filipino guys dont do it, is very gay!
and its ok to hold hands for women (whatever race). 'tis a friendly thing.
Bik.. all over Asia? Are you sure about that?
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You must have never been to an Asian country.
All over Asia, men hold hands with other men. Women holding hands is also very normal.
You cannot avoid seeing them and almost certainly they are not gay or lesbian.
That's not to say that there are no gay or lesbians, but if there are you usually can tell by their body languge - not by whether or not they are holding hands with the same sex.
but you don't find people eating each others' tongues in public in france strange??
hahahaha when I read this about choked. Damn! I missed that part. That's what I get for looking at the Eiffel Tower instead of watching ground level. hee hee
hahahahaha, how would you like to be fried luv???!!!
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to the corner!
Now!
Labda was actually asking about Charan.. where is he? Anyone..?
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Do they hold hands when cold? Is it the right or the left?
I need to follow up on that one, with my confession booth journal.
I hear St. Patrick was an Englishman!"
now heero u've heard the comments, try to have a nice sleep from now on.
its their culture...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
congraz!
your first serious and good threat in QL!
Looks like you checking how feasible it is in Qatar//// LOL
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not enuf chicks 2 hold hands with...so they get desperate...
or maybe they r twins who hv nt been detached yet
ohhh hero never go to Manchester you will just have a heart attack from the stuff there if you think holding hands is radical
reasonable explanation, that is..........
mostly are around National and they go there to meet new friends ... The thing is, do you want him to spend the whole day there looking for a friend and in the end let go of him? He gotta hold his hand to make sure that he is not running anywhere ... :D
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
if they dont allow opposite sexes to hold hands in public, how come i see some people doing it?
this is the end result for not allowing holding hands in public for opposite sex.. :P
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lol panda.. do you always lol yourself??
You know heero.. it's fine if you want to do it too. Whatever floats your boat! Don't keep it in.. after all it may cause you depression or rather some emotional issues. Do what you heart tells you.. Let it out, I say!
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LOL...
PANDA
just leave 'em be heero,.. if they're happy with that, no use asking yourself why they do that.... must be culture or something...
Maybe everybody in India is gay and it's bothering our buddy heero!! Uh-oh!! And no I'm not generalizing!!
Cyber cops!! Don't arrest me!! I'm innocent!!
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kissing each others noses, wots wrong with it? its a part of a culture. i dont wanna give examples from other cultures. Just respect other's culture
better nose to nose than ear to ear...
PANDA
nose to nose kissing, men only do it by the way
and come on there is nothing wrong with it :-)
When I was in India, I saw men holding hands everywhere. Does that make them all gay ? Its a cultural thing..
By the way, Husband and wife are allowed to hold hands in Qatar and even in Saudi..
lol panda, tig.. nobody can stop me from singing...
I was being facetious (spelling) Doctora. Actually I figure it's just cause there are no women here to hold hands with!
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*Alexa..
PANDA
LOL Alex!!! yeah especially nose to nose..
PANDA
LOL at Nathan.. yea, how did it feel first time you landed here in Qatar for a job?! I bet you felt hundreds, hey!!!
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Jamy, bcoz i'm JIN ! i follow you wherever you go! >:|
PANDA
Show me a Filipina who isn't always singing and I will show you a fraud.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
Well i dont exactly what are u talking about, you seem understanding nothing. In arab and islamic countries this gesture implies nothing bad.Try not look at it from a western angle.
but you don't find people eating each others' tongues in public in france strange??
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away."
lol panda, how'd you know i'm always singing?
Gypsy said Because if they hold hands with women they'll be arrested and lashed.
No they won't, we're not in Saudi...
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"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
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"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
It does take time to get used to. I still haven't, but I'm sure I will eventually.
Because if they hold hands with women they'll be arrested and lashed.
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no jamy bcoz u always singing dont have time to see
PANDA
How touching. They came to a loving country to make love. ROFL
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
he might have seen some group dances...somewhere near Corniche..
lol panda,... must be fags...
evrywhere jamy! where ru living!!! on the moon
PANDA
Men holding hands?? where? lol.........
Plenty of men 'round here are in love! LOL
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
first time I landed here for a job.....(Now How do you feel?)..